Finding out you’re a side chick can be devastating, but knowingly being the other woman is a total douchebag move. I should know — I’ve been her before. It seems easy to tell yourself that it has nothing to do with you and that if he chooses to cheat, then that’s on him, but that’s BS and you’re just as much at fault. If you know he has a girlfriend already, back the hell off. Here are 10 reasons I’ll NEVER knowingly be the side chick again:
- Karma is a bitch. Maybe it won’t happen today or even tomorrow, but eventually what goes around definitely comes around. I would prefer that this particular thing not come back around to bite me in the ass, so I’m going to learn this lesson early and not do it again.
- I’ve also been on the other side. Since deciding it was an awesome idea to enable a cheater, I’ve been cheated on by a dude who was sleeping with a girl that not only knew about me, she knew me! Pretty well, too. #deservedthat
- Men don’t need any help being losers. This is so damn true. Don’t be a side chick and enabler — he doesn’t need anyone helping him be any more of a doucher than he already is.
- Women need to spend more time boosting each other up. We definitely shouldn’t be bringing each other down by sleeping with each other’s boyfriends or husbands. Seriously, we’re so much better than that, right?
- It makes you look like a tool. People may not say it to your face, but anyone who knows that you’re around with a guy that’s already spoken for is judging you, and you deserve it! Having been that girl that thought it was OK to do this, I judge myself, hard.
- He’s NEVER going to leave her. Let’s be really real for a minute — how often does the guy actually leave his stable relationship for his side chick? Rarely, if ever. How often do you think those relationships really work? Uh, never.
- He’s damaged goods, obviously. Basically, if he’s willing to cheat on her, then there’s something wrong with him. Why don’t men ever just leave the woman they’re with if they’re going to cheat? I’ll never figure this one out. You don’t need a guy that thinks this is fair.
- I’ve finally found my self-respect. If you actually respect yourself, then you won’t think it’s a good idea to stoop low enough to let him cheat with you. When I look back on it, I know that it was a reflection of my poor opinion of myself, and thinking I didn’t deserve better. But I did, and you do, too.
- Likelihood is, she doesn’t deserve this. So, let’s stop making this about me (and you) for a second and think about his actual girlfriend. She probably doesn’t deserve this. If he’s a tool, then she needs to find out some other way.
- I deserve so much more than another woman’s man. This is the gospel, ladies. We all deserve our own men — really. There are plenty to go around, so don’t be a poacher. Get out there and find your Mr. Right!
