10 Reasons You Should Spend Time Away From Your Boyfriend

10 Reasons You Should Spend Time Away From Your Boyfriend ©iStock/Martin-dm

You and your boyfriend may really love each other, but you don’t have to spend every waking second together. Spending time apart is good for your relationship. Here are 10 reasons you should give each other some space:

  1. So you have something to talk about. If you’re always together, experiencing all the same things, then what do you talk about with each other? You both need real life interactions so you can come back together and indulge in every detail. 
  2. So you get out of your own little world. When you’re together, it can be easy to live in your own little sanctuary, just the two of you. But it’s not reality, and you need to be reminded of that. Get out and experience the real world so you can come back and remember how good it feels to be in the world you created together.
  3. So you can breathe on your own. When your boyfriend is always right beside you, it’s pretty easy to become dependent on him. Independence is good for you. You need to be able to excel on your own at work, at home, and in separate social interactions.
  4. So you can miss each other. If you’re always together, you never have the time to miss one another — why would you? How could you ever miss someone who’s sitting right next to you 24/7? The time you share should be precious, not constant.
  5. So you can gain some perspective. If you just had a fight, forcing the confrontation will never resolve the problem. Sometimes you just need a little time apart to cool down, reflect on your feelings, and gather your thoughts.
  6. So you can think about your relationship. Does being with this man make you happy? Sometimes you need time apart to be able to answer that heavy question. You can fall into the routine of normalcy, but your relationship shouldn’t just be comfortable, it should be exciting until the very end.
  7. So you can make time for other commitments. You have other things going on in your life, or you should. Work, hobbies, family — these things all deserve time and attention. Sure, your relationship takes time too, but not all of it. Don’t let it consume you, because you should have more than just one important thing in your life.
  8. So you can keep your friends. You can have couples nights, double dates, and group hangs, but what about girls’ night? It’s too common that women fall into a relationship and forget to make time for their friends. Never forget the women who were there for you before he was or they won’t be there after.
  9. So you can appreciate your time together. When you’re always with your mate, you don’t have the perspective to appreciate the relationship you have. Life is easier as a team, but how can you know that if you’re never apart?
  10. So you can be your own person. You may be a couple, but you are two separate people, or at least you should be. Make time for yourself. Whether you have a hobby or just love to indulge in all the perks of being a girl, never forget that you are an individual with your own thoughts, wants, and needs to fulfill.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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