10 Serious Challenges Alpha Women Face

10 Serious Challenges Alpha Women Face ©iStock/darkbird77

Alpha women know what we want and how to get it. We’re focused but flexible, and we know the true value of the relationships in our lives, but we’re also human. Being a total badass is great and we wouldn’t have it other way, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t come with downsides.

  1. Finding a partner who can keep up with us is nearly impossible. It’s not we’re high maintenance, it’s that our standards are super high. We apply those standards not only to ourselves, but with potential partners, too. Sometimes, the right guy can get lost along the way, when all he really needed to become Mr. Right was some open communication and compromise.
  2. Sometimes we forget to take time to breathe. Whatever it is, an alpha woman is doing it. We’re not only doing as much as we possibly can, but we want to be the best at it. Juggling our dreams is time consuming, and eats up all of our energy, and it can be easy to forget to take a moment for yourself and just exhale.
  3. It’s exhausting having to prove ourselves all the time. Alpha women are used to having to prove ourselves. We’re constantly in competition, not just with ourselves, but with others. It’s important to be able to step back and realize that being the best doesn’t actually matter. As long as you’re doing your own personal best, that’s what matters.
  4. It sucks having to pick up other people’s slack. It’s not that we don’t work well with others, it’s just that we can’t stand when other people don’t work as hard. It can be frustrating to be held accountable for other people’s work when we know we could have done a great job on our own.
  5. We feel like we can’t be vulnerable. When everyone is looking for you to be the archetype of a strong, independent woman, it can be hard to show weakness. In reality, being able to show our vulnerable side and opening ourselves up to others can be incredibly powerful. We might live to regret putting up too much of a facade in order to maintain our status as strong and relentless, so it’s important to relax from time time.
  6. We care too much about what people think of us. While it may seem counter-intuitive, a lot of us sometimes get caught up in giving off a vibe that screams, “I don’t give a damn what you think.” The irony is that sometimes spending too much time fretting over not caring about other people’s opinions makes us do exactly that.
  7. We’re complete perfectionists. While caring about our work and getting the job done are important, sometimes it’s more powerful to be able to let go of mistakes than to labor over them. Being too much of a perfectionist can make us overthink things and focus on the negative. It’s more valuable to be able to learn from mistakes rather than linger over them endlessly.
  8. It can be hard to strike a balance. Love, work, sex, family, friendship, money, passion and wonder. These are a subset of the things that we all try to keep together in our lives. We’re likely to push each one to the limit, and prioritize some too heavily at different points. Finding a balance is tough, but it’s necessary if we want to be truly happy.
  9. People find us intimidating. Alpha women are bosses, pure and simple, but that’s only one side of our personalities. Being seen as mercenary, hard-nosed or intimidating can be upsetting when we actually crave compassion, friendship and companionship as much as anybody else.