10 Signs Your Dating Life Is Like A Taylor Swift Song

What would we do without Taylor Swift? No matter what you’re going through – a bad break-up, an almost relationship, a confusing situation – she’s got a song for it. And as a bonus, her music is not only relatable but fun, too. The more you listen, you more you probably find yourself relating to her stories of love gone wrong. Here are 10 signs that your dating life is similar to a T-Swift jam.

  1. Your relationships are short but intense. One minute Taylor’s walking hand-in-hand with Jake Gyllenhaal, the next she’s got a thing for a Kennedy. Her most perfect song about loving someone for a short time is “All Too Well”, in which she brings up the beauty of small moments like standing in someone’s kitchen, looking at childhood photos and your ex keeping your scarf.
  2. You’ve got a thing for bad boys. “Treacherous” tells the story of the beauty and danger of being in love with someone who is totally wrong for you, with my personal favourite Taylor lyrics in which she sings, “Nothing safe is worth the drive and I will follow you home.” And, of course, we can’t forget the classic bad boy anthem, “I Knew You Were Trouble”. But hey, sometimes a girl can’t help it. Dylan was the most swoon-worthy character on 90210 and we fell for Jordan Catalano on My So-Called Life for a good reason.
  3. You know a bad date or the end of a love affair is not the end of the world. Perhaps the best personal philosophy that is packaged in a pop song is “Shake It Off”. This should be your anthem for everything in your romantic life.
  4. You’re a serial dater. If you find yourself going on several dates a week, you can probably relate to the lyric “I’ve got a blank space baby, and I’ll write your name.” And maybe you have a bunch of Starbucks lovers. (I still think that’s a better lyric.)
  5. You know that going cold turkey is the best way to get over someone. The 1989 ballad “Clean” claims that getting over someone is like getting over an addiction, and you can totally relate. When it’s over, you know it, and you say goodbye to calls and texts and get sober.
  6. You are always yourself. In the oldie but goodie “You Belong With Me”, Taylor sings about the ways she’s different from the girl that the object of her affection likes. But she never feels bad about herself, and she pokes fun at the way the media view her in “Shake it Off”. She knows she’s a bad dancer and a bit dorky but she won’t change her personality for a guy.
  7. You know when to say goodbye to an on-again, off-again thing. The classic break-up anthem is, of course, “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together”. It’s the kind of pop song that picks you up and puts you back together.
  8. You see the beauty in the little things. Whether she’s dancing in front of a fridge in “All Too Well”, rearranging furniture in “Out of the Woods” or a new boyfriend is carrying her groceries in “Stay Stay Stay”, Taylor knows that the small moments are actually the most romantic of times. Maybe you don’t find a fridge or couch romantic but you probably smile when you get that cute good morning text.
  9. You’re a realist. Taylor said in this NPR interview that she thinks it’s the exception if a relationship lasts, not the rule. You feel the same way about every first date you go on: expecting it to be boring at best and awful at worst, but thinking that one of them might work out eventually.
  10. You still believe in love. In my opinion, the quintessential Taylor Song is not “Love Story” or “Shake It Off” but the quiet ballad “Begin Again”. It’s about being surprisingly open to a new relationship even when you’ve been hurt. “I’ve been spending the last 8 months thinking all love ever does is break and burn and end, but on a Wednesday in a café I watched it begin again,” she sings. If that sounds like you, then congrats. You’re officially a Taylor Swift-level hopeless romantic. Welcome to the red-lipstick wearing, New York-loving club.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.