10 Signs He’s Afraid Of Losing You, According To A Guy

Unless you’re particularly lucky, there usually comes a time in every relationship when you worry about losing the other person. Sooner or later, insecurity gets the best of us and that’s true for men too. At some point in most serious relationships, he’ll start to worry that he’s losing you whether you’re actually thinking of leaving or not. Here are some signs this is happening in your relationship.

  1. He’s overly eager to spend time with you. Obviously he’s going to want to see you, but if he’s pushing harder than usual to spend quality time together, there’s probably something that he’s not sharing with you. It’s possible that he’s trying to overcompensate for something. He thinks that he’s doing something to push you away and wants to make up for that by trying to spend time with you.
  2. He gives you presents for no reason. Giving you gifts is another way that guys tend to overcorrect if they made a mistake that might motivate you to leave them. In this case, he’ll give you presents even when it’s not a special occasion. He might do this to help give you a reason to stay with him. In fact, some guys will even go overboard and get you a ring out of fear of losing you. Don’t be fooled!
  3. You’ll get your way more often. When a guy thinks he might lose you, he’ll be more willing to let you have your way. He’ll want to make you happy at all costs and he also won’t want to fight with you for fear of that being the final straw in the relationship. That means he’ll cave in easily at the first sign of you getting upset.
  4. He tells you that he misses you. Time spent apart will fill him with anxiety. Even if you’re away from each other for a day or two, he’ll let you know that he misses you. He’ll want to make it clear that you’re always on his mind to help convince you that he’s committed to the relationship and hopes you are too.
  5. He takes an interest in your family. Guys think that if they can entrench themselves into your family, it won’t be so easy to leave him. If they start to worry that things could end, they’ll try to play a more meaningful role in your relationship with your family. Part of it is to show that they’re committed, but it’s also to make you think twice about ending things.
  6. He talks about the future. If a guy talks about the future in a way that assumes you two have one together, perhaps you’ll go along with it. This will help him convince you that he’s serious and that he wants to stay together for the long term. Plus, if he’s worried about you leaving him, he’ll want to get you thinking about a future together rather than apart.
  7. He’s (overly) attentive. Men who are fearful of anything suddenly want to meet your every need. They become super attentive, almost to a fault. They want to do whatever it takes to make sure you’re getting everything you want out of the relationship. This is another way that a guy who’s worried will try to overcompensate for something they think they did wrong in an effort to make you want to stay.
  8. He asks a lot of questions. This almost goes hand-in-hand with being overly attentive. If he fears a breakup is coming, he’ll ask a lot of questions to show you that he’s interested and attentive. At the same time, he’s also fishing for information with his questions. He wants to find out if there’s a problem with the relationship and if he’s right to be fearful about losing you.
  9. His behavior changes. Only you can tell if the behavior of your boyfriend is a little different from normal. Just keep in mind that any kind of behavioral change is usually indicative of some deeper issue. If he’s concerned you might leave him, he might assume that he’s doing something wrong. This could make him want to do something different in hopes that it will convince you to stick around.
  10. He’s suddenly overly jealous. If a guy is afraid of losing you, one of his first instincts is to think that there’s someone else in the equation. I mean, is that not the case a lot of the time? Naturally, that will stir up jealous feelings inside of him. Even if it’s not true, it’s common for a guy’s jealous side to come out when he’s worried about being left by you. He realizes that if you leave him, you’ll end up with someone else at some point. That’s enough to send him over the edge.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.