10 Signs He’s Lying About Not Loving You Anymore

Some say that it takes half the time your relationship lasted to get over a person, so there’s still a high chance that your ex still has feelings for you even if they swear otherwise. Obviously, if you’ve broken up, your former flame may not want to be direct and admit that he’s not totally over you. After all, the possibility of rejection is a scary one. If you can’t tell where your former partner stands, keep an eye out for these signs.

  1. He still likes your photos. It’s normal for exes to delete each other from social media directly after a split, but if your ex is not only still following you on online platforms but is actively liking your content, then it’s a sign you’re still on his radar – and that he wants to get your attention! Doing something as simple as liking a photo may be his way of testing the waters to see how you respond. If you want it to go somewhere, then consider liking one of his recent pics too.
  2. He drunk calls you. A bit to drink can give someone serious confidence… enough to reach out to their ex, even. He may be too afraid to admit while he’s sober if he still has feelings, especially if he doesn’t feel the same way. But if he’s always dialing your number when he’s inebriated, it not only means that you’re running through his mind but that he likely also wishes things didn’t end the way they did.
  3. He refuses to give your stuff back. If he’s still holding onto your stuff, then chances are he’s still holding out hope that there’s a future for you two. To be fair, he may be refusing to return your things out of pettiness. But it’s also possible that he sees it as a reason for the two of you to stay in contact, which could lead to reconciliation.
  4. He hasn’t moved on with anyone. Some people like to rebound immediately after their relationship ends, even if they haven’t moved on from their ex. But, then again, a lot of people feel unable to see anyone, even casually, if they still have feelings for their ex. If he’s clearly reluctant to move on, he could be trying to signal to you that you’re still the only woman on his mind.
  5. He asks mutual friends about you. Even if it was a nasty break-up, it’s normal for an ex to still care about your well-being. So, it may not mean much if he asks once or twice how you’re doing. But if he’s constantly asking for updates from your friends or family – particularly if he’s inquiring whether you’ve moved on or not – then he may be trying to gauge whether you have any leftover feelings, too.
  6. He keeps reaching out. He may seem like he’s messaging you about mundane things, but even if it feels insignificant, the fact that he’s reaching out isn’t nothing. Generally, when people are moving on from a relationship, they want to wash their hands clean of their ex. But if he’s sliding into your DMs, then it’s likely a sign he’s having a hard time letting go of the feelings he has for you.
  7. He keeps all your photos together. If he’s deleted your photos off social media, then he’s likely trying to have a blank slate – or let girls on dating apps know he’s single and ready to mingle. But if you’re still present on his social media accounts, take it as a sign that he’s not moved on yet. He may be waiting to delete the images just in case there’s a chance you two get back together.
  8. He clearly tries to get your attention. There are tons of ways he may be trying to get your attention – whether it’s plastering his new girl on social media, blowing up your inbox, or simply being more active online than normal. If his behaviour seems more attention-seeking than normal, he may be trying to get on your radar to remind you why you had feelings for him in the first place. 
  9. He wants to hang out as “friends.” It’s hard being friends with an ex but not impossible, though it usually takes time.  However, if he’s insisting you two hang out right after the break-up, even if it’s platonic, he may have ulterior motives. He could be hoping that spending time together will rekindle the old flame. So, take him up on his offer if you still have leftover feelings, too.
  10. He seems happy to see you. It’s generally awkward when running into an ex, especially if the break-up is still fresh. But if he seems genuinely happy to see you, then it’s a sure-fire sign that he’s missing you. The friendlier he is, the more likely it is that he may hope your run-in is fate’s way of bringing you back together. If he’s actively avoiding you on the other hand, however, especially after he’s noticed you, then it may be a sign he feels the break-up is for the best.
Alexandra is a freelance writer in Montreal, Quebec. She enjoys shopping as a sport, Buffy the Vampire Slayer re-runs, and being a plant mom.