10 Signs He’s The One That’s More Invested In The Relationship

Women aren’t the only ones who can become obsessed with the idea of commitment — there are some men who want nothing more than to be in a serious relationship. Of course, when they have their heart set on monogamy, they can move too fast and end up scaring you away. That’s why you should recognize the signs that your man is more invested in the relationship than you are. If that’s the case, then you should either have a serious discussion or head for the door.

  1. He always texts first. If you find yourself ignoring his messages while you’re busy watching TV but he finds a way to answer you even when he’s in a meeting, he’s way more invested in the relationship than you are.
  2. He’s always the one making plans. In an ideal relationship, you’d both come up with fun plans for the weekend. If he’s the only one initiating your dates, then he wants to see you more than you want to see him. It’s as simple as that.
  3. You’ve met his family, but he hasn’t met yours. If he invites you over for dinner with his parents, but you haven’t even mentioned his name to your family, then he’s definitely moving faster than you are. Meeting your partner’s parents is a huge step. It shows that he wants to keep you around for as long as he can.
  4. He changes his relationship status first. With the help of social media, it’s easy to tell which one of you is more attached. If he changes his relationship status first and switches his profile picture to a snapshot of the two of you, he wants everyone to know you’re taken. Meanwhile, if you still haven’t taken down the photos of your ex, then you’re not even close to being on the same page.
  5. He empties out a drawer for your stuff. If you’ve never even invited him over to your house, but he cleans out a drawer for you to use at his house, then he’s more serious about the relationship than you are. If he keeps the fridge stocked with your favorite foods and leaves an extra toothbrush out for you, he’s got it bad.
  6. He keeps mentioning the future. If making plans for the next weekend is too big of a commitment for you, but he’s already planning your future kid’s names, you have a problem. You need to have a serious discussion with him, so that he tones it down a bit. Otherwise, he could scare you away.
  7. He pressures you into moving faster. It doesn’t matter whether he’s pushing you to move in with him or to meet his best friend. If he’s comfortable with a situation that you’re uncomfortable with, then he’s more serious about the relationship than you are. He needs to slow it down until you reach his level.
  8. He wants to take you everywhere. If he invites you out with his friends every weekend, but you refuse to bring him to a party with you, then something is wrong. If he’s proud to show you off, but you’re embarrassed of him, then you certainly don’t feel the same way about each other.
  9. He’ll do whatever makes you happy. If you have your heart set on going to the opera, he’ll go with you, even if he hates the idea. Meanwhile, if he asks you to sit down with him to watch a hockey game, you’ll laugh and go on with your day. He’ll make sacrifices for you, but you won’t make any for him.
  10. He says, “I love you” before you’re ready. If those three little words have never crossed your mind but he’s already saying them, then he’s fallen much faster and harder than you. Make sure you break it to him easy when you refuse to say the phrase back.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.