Not all boys are meant to be boyfriends. Some of them are fun to hook up with, but aren’t able to handle a real relationship. It helps to know what type of man you’re with from the start, so that you aren’t completely blindsided when he decides to bail. Here are a few signs that it’s only a matter of time until he breaks your heart:
- He says “I” instead of “we.” If you two intend on staying together, you need to view yourselves as a team. If he calls the place you share “my apartment” instead of “our apartment,” then he doesn’t think of you as a permanent part of his life. He’s counting down the days until your break up.
- He’s never been in a long-term relationship. It’s even worse if he doesn’t have any long-term friends, either. That means that he isn’t good at keeping people around. You probably won’t be any different than the rest of them.
- He won’t call you his girlfriend. Or meet your parents. Or spend the night at your house. If he won’t do any of the things that boyfriends and girlfriends typically do, then he’s not looking for anything serious. If you are, then expect to have your heart shattered soon.
- He doesn’t make time for you. It shouldn’t be all that hard for him to clear his schedule. If he goes from seeing you every weekend to seeing you every other week, then it won’t be long until he stops seeing you completely. He’s trying to ghost on you gradually.
- He’s uncomfortably close with his ex. If he won’t stop texting his ex, even after you’ve expressed your concerns about it, then he isn’t trying to keep you around. If she’s more important to him than you are, then a breakup is in your future.
- He won’t open up to you. Some men will take a while to warm up to you. However, if you’ve been dating for months and you still know nothing about his childhood or exes, he isn’t serious about you. If he was, then he would’ve spilled his heart out to you.
- You’ve caught him lying more than once. If you’ve already discovered that he’s an amazing liar, you can’t believe a word that he says. If he’s willing to lie to you about one thing, he’ll be willing to do it again and again. Even if he doesn’t break up with you, he’ll break your heart by doing something deceptive.
- He’s embarrassed of you. He should be proud to hold your hand at the mall and introduce you to his parents. If he tells you to be quiet whenever you joke around in public, or refuses to even go out in public with you, then he doesn’t want anyone to know you’re together.
- You’re the only one trying. A relationship requires two willing participants. If you’re the only one putting in any effort, then you’re going to end up heartbroken. If he doesn’t care about you enough to pull his weight, then it’s only a matter of time until he leaves you.
- He’s broken your heart before. Unless you two have done a lot of growing up since the last time you dated, he’s bound to break your heart again. It’ll be a repeat in history.
