10 Signs You May Be a Late Bloomer in Love

Not everyone finds the love of their life in high school. Okay, most people don’t. But generally, we think that the time to have our first boyfriend, first kiss, and maybe a lot more than that is while we’re still teenagers. For some reason, hitting 20 without experiencing any of those things can be a source of shame for some. But there’s nothing wrong with being a bit of a late bloomer. Another sex can be intimidating, and the most important thing is that you’re ready and excited to experience all those firsts with the right person.

  1. You feel unnecessarily awkward around another sex. You’ve spent so little time actually getting to know guys in general that you just don’t get them. They are like some kind of mysterious alien species you want to study, but don’t even know where to start.
  2. You never even attempted makeup in high school. While your friends were experimenting with white eyeliner, you were getting up 10 minutes before you had to be out the door. They thought makeup would make the boys notice them, and you just couldn’t care less.
  3. You were more focused on what colleges to apply to than what guys you wanted to date. A well written college admissions essay had a lot more potential to get you into law school than a date with the quarterback of the football team.
  4. Your first kiss was so awkward that your second kiss didn’t happen for years after that. You were probably caught off guard and had no idea what to do with your tongue. You had no idea what the hype was all about and decided to forget about the whole thing.
  5. You didn’t have a boyfriend until well into your twenties. And frankly, you didn’t really care. You saw what your friends had to go through with guys, and you’d much rather wait for a guy with a little more experience with relationships than have to be the one to teach him everything.
  6. Losing your virginity was never a big priority. While everyone else was talking about when and who and where, you were perfectly comfortable living the awkward moments through them and cherishing your virgin status.
  7. You rolled your eyes at your boy mad friends. It was actually exhausting trying to keep up with their constantly revolving door of guys to crush on, so you resorted to giving them nicknames like “curly haired guy” or “bushy eyebrows guy”.
  8. Even when guys did show interest in you, you couldn’t be bothered. You weren’t harboring any unrequited love waiting for the day that guys would start noticing you. Even when they were interested in you, you just didn’t have time for the BS that inevitably comes along with dating.
  9. But you were usually oblivious to guys checking you out anyway. If your friend told you a guy was looking at you, you’d snort back a laugh and continue about your business.
  10. Your standards are ridiculously high. You were never one to fall head over heels for a pretty face. You need substance, and the guys your age just never did it for you.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.