10 Signs The New Guy You Like Is Too Good To Be True

You meet a new guy and he’s positively perfect for you. He could be, but it’s probably better if you don’t dive in too quickly. After all, a guy who sounds too good to true very well might be. Here are 10 signs Mr. Perfect is anything but:

  1. You couldn’t name a single one of his flaws. He never shows a weakness. In fact, he’s led you to believe that he has none, which is obviously not the case. Everyone has flaws, and the fact that he’s hiding them may just mean that he has some big skeletons in his closet. You should be skeptical and prepare yourself for his true colors to finally come out.
  2. He’s unbelievably sweet. If he’s constantly over-complimenting you, tread lightly. His sweet talk game is pro status, but nobody is that nice all the time. If he’s telling you the nicest things anyone has ever said, then that may just be him trying to win your favor. Flattering can get a guy pretty far in life, so be cautious and remember you’re better off with an honest man than a sweet talker who’s totally fake.
  3. Things are moving way too fast. Deep down, you know that the quick progression of your relationship makes you uncomfortable but you’re so distracted by his perfection that you just don’t care. He’s pushing you to go faster and you can’t help but go along with it. He’s making promises that you’re not sure he can keep. It’s one thing to commit to someone, but before you jump off the deep end, get to know each other first.
  4. He gives you attention but keeps his phone under lock and key. When you’re together, he’s completely focused on you and completely off his phone, but it’s always by his side. If he leaves the room even for just a second, his phone is going too. In fact, he doesn’t even leave his phone in view because if someone is hitting him up, he definitely doesn’t want you to know about it. Just remember, guys who are weird about their phones are most likely living a double life with at least one other girl who’s not you.
  5. He’s quick to give you a pet name. Guys who date multiple girls at one time are huge fans of pet names. Why? So that he never accidentally calls you by the wrong name. It’s not because you’re special to him, it’s so that he doesn’t mix you up with any other woman he’s currently seeing. Pet names are something that develops over time, so beware of the guy who gives you a dozen generic ones overnight.
  6. He’s overly charismatic. You might find him charming, but if he sounds like he’s a guy straight out of a movie, never forget that practice makes perfect. You’re most likely not the only girl he’s charmed and odds are you won’t be the last. If he sounds less like a genuine guy and more like a politician, he’s probably too good to be true.
  7. He says you’re perfect, but he also says all his exes are crazy. Just remember that at one point, he probably thought they were perfect too. Bad blood with one ex is normal, but if thinks every single one of his previous girlfriends is crazy, maybe they’re not the problem. Most likely, it’s him.
  8. He’s has a lot of confidence — like, almost too much. Never forget that there’s a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. If he walks around like he’s the best thing that ever happened to you, he’s probably less in love with you and more in love with himself. Make sure he’s confident but humble. After all, you don’t want to stick with a guy who loves gazing into his own eyes more than he likes looking into yours.
  9. He’s too agreeable. Yes, there is such a thing as being TOO agreeable. It’s not that you should be with someone who constantly disagrees with you, but if you agree on everything, he might not be showing you the real him. He might just be trying to be the guy he thinks you want him to be. It’s just like the way a con artist pretends to have things in common to gain your trust. It’s all a game and his perfection is just an illusion.
  10. Your instincts are telling you that something is off. Your intuition is trying to protect you, so don’t just push your gut feelings away. Your body is trying to tell you something and you need to listen. Your heart wants to give every guy a chance because it only sees the good in people and never the bad. That’s why when it comes to a man who sounds too good to be true, you have to let your head take the reigns and figure out if you’ve been fooled.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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