10 Signs You Should’ve Broken Up With Him Months Ago

It’s hard to leave someone you love, even when you know it’s for the best. Of course, you can’t continue to date a man who’s causing you more pain than pleasure. Eventually, it’s going to drive you nuts. That’s why you need to end your unhealthy relationship before things get out of hand. There’s no reason to keep putting off the inevitable when you can rip off the band-aid today.

  1. He makes you feel bad about yourself. Your boyfriend should make you feel prettier, smarter, and sweeter than you’ve ever felt before. If he’s drawing attention to your negative traits instead of your positive ones, then the relationship is unhealthy. You tear yourself down enough without having someone help you do it.
  2. You’ve been eyeing other guys. You’re always going to find other men attractive, even once you’re happily married. However, once you start fantasizing about asking out your sexy coworkers and moving in with them to start a family of your own, it’s time to break up with your boyfriend. You clearly want someone else.
  3. Every little thing he does annoys you. Everyone has their irritating little habits. But if your boyfriend can’t watch television without you getting annoyed by how loud the sound is or how much room he’s taking up on the couch, you should end it. If you’re getting mad over the things that don’t really matter, then you’re just looking for excuses to be angry at him.
  4. You dread seeing him. You should look forward to seeing your man after a long, hard day. If he’s the last person you want to see, then why are you dating him? Being in a relationship shouldn’t feel like a chore, so if visiting his house feels as tedious as washing your dishes, something is wrong.
  5. You don’t want the same things. If he wants to get married and have children, but you aren’t interested in any of those things, you’re going to break up eventually. Otherwise, one of you will end up with a life that you hate. Do yourself a favor and part ways before you get too attached.
  6. You always complain about him. When you get together with your girls, are all of the stories you tell them about your boyfriend negative? If you don’t have anything nice to say about him, then there’s really no reason to continue dating him. He’s someone you should be bragging about, not complaining about.
  7. Sex is the only positive. The fact that he gives good head isn’t a reason to remain in a relationship with him. If sleeping with him is the only benefit of dating him, then it’s time to break up. Meanwhile, if you haven’t had sex in months and barely even kiss anymore, then that’s another good reason to break up.
  8. Every conversation turns into a fight. If you can’t figure out which diner to go to without starting a fight, then you two have some deeper problems that you need to work out. If you can’t solve them, or are unwilling to, then you need to find the door. Once you start bickering over every little thing, you’ll never stop.
  9. One of you is cheating. It doesn’t matter if he’s cheating on you or if you’re cheating on him. Either way, you should take charge and break up with him. You both deserve better.
  10. He makes you cry more than smile. Your boyfriend is meant to enhance your life. He should make your bad days better, not your good days worse. If he only causes you tears, then you need to end the relationship as soon as you can. It’s the only way you’ll be happy again.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.