10 Signs Terrible Dating Experiences Have Made You Cynical & Jaded

10 Signs Terrible Dating Experiences Have Made You Cynical & Jaded ©iStock/Todor Tsvetkov

When you’ve been in enough dead end relationships or been ghosted by enough jerks, obviously you’re going to be less than thrilled about looking for love. Sure, you want a boyfriend, but at what cost? It almost doesn’t seem worth it. If you can relate to any of the following, it’s true: you’ve become cynical and jaded as hell about dating.

  1. You really can’t enjoy rom-coms anymore. Suspension of disbelief used to come easy, but these days you can’t even see the screen because your eyes have rolled so far back in your head at the gag-inducing BS in these movies. Love doesn’t work like that, so why does anyone pretend otherwise?
  2. Couples’ PDA makes you more annoyed than usual. You weren’t always so disgusted by couples who show their affection in public, but now seeing anyone kissing and walking hand in hand makes you want to scream at them to get a room. Ugh, don’t they have any decency?
  3. When a guy hits on you, you’re sure he has an ulterior motive. So many of your experiences with dating have gone badly that now you don’t believe someone can be genuinely interested in you. Sure, you need to protect your heart, but you also just might turn away the real deal.
  4. You think all dating advice is BS. All the how-to guides in the world aren’t going to help you bag Mr. Right, and no one knows that better than you. Happy couples are rare and finding your perfect guy seems to be down to luck more than anything you’re actually in control of, so why bother trying?
  5. Monogamy makes you nervous. You’re pretty sure most relationships are doomed, so you’re tempted to run the other way whenever things are going too well. You know better than to get your hopes up and become too attached to one guy. The risk of having your heart broken no longer seems worth it, and you want to keep your options open.
  6. Happily ever after really is for fairy tales. Sometimes people’s happy endings don’t involve romance, but to think it’s not possible at all because you’ve been scorned is a bad sign. Sure, life isn’t a Disney movie, but since more than 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, you’re pretty sure you’ve been lied to your whole life.
  7. You even doubt your friends’ relationships. She’s head over heels in love and seems to finally have found a guy who makes her happy and is her perfect match. He’s smart, funny, handsome and really adores your BFF — but you’re not buying it. Sure, things are great now, but you’re going to have to pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong.
  8. Your dating profile is a total joke. You feel like you’ve tried every app and website, and you can’t even be bothered to put in any kind of legitimate effort into your profiles anymore, since it’s never going to lead to any real, meaningful connections, anyway. Your answers are sarcastic at best and downright ridiculous at worse, because what harm can it do?
  9. It takes a long time for you to get intimate with someone. If you sleep with him too soon, you’re cutting short a relationship that probably won’t last forever, anyway. Besides, you’re not stupid — you know guys are only interested in sex, and you’re smart enough to hold out for a while, even if you’re actually pretty horny and wouldn’t mind a casual hook-up.
  10. You’re totally unfiltered on your dates. You’re pretty sure the guy you’re meeting for drinks is only in it for a quick hook-up and guys aren’t all that picky about who they sleep with, so why bother to pretend to be prim and proper? If he can’t handle your bad attitude, then he’s not worth your time, right?
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.