Most relationships have their ups and downs. There are going to be times when you love your partner and times when you hate their guts. So, how are you supposed to know if you’re in trouble, or if you’re just going through a rough patch? Here are 10 signs you’re right to worry about your relationship.
- Everything Annoys You. Everything about them bothers you, from the way they talk and eat their food to the way they sleep and breathe. That’s not a good sign. Chances are, there are problems in your relationship that haven’t been resolved due to poor communication and now you have pent up anger that’s making you hate everything about them. If you and your partner don’t start communicating better, it’ll only get worse.
- Your Goals Don’t Align. Every relationship needs both people to be willing to compromise, but compromising doesn’t mean giving up what’s important to you. Sure, you might need to find a middle ground on how many children you want, but if you want two kids and your partner doesn’t want any, the relationship won’t work. If your goals don’t align, it means you’re not with the right person.
- You Have Zero Interest In Sex. The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. In the beginning, you wanted to jump your partner’s bones every other day, but now that urge has died down. You might even get tired of your partner’s bedroom habits and begin to fantasize about someone new. That’s completely normal. However, there’s a problem when you start to fantasize all the time and cringe when your partner touches you. Sound familiar?
- You’re No Longer Emotionally Intimate. Not only has your sex life taken a turn, but you’re no longer vulnerable with your partner. A healthy relationship is where you both share your thoughts and seek advice from the other, but you don’t feel that connection. You don’t want to confide in your partner anymore or discuss anything important.
- The Trust Is Gone. Maybe they cheated or maybe you caught them in a lie. Whatever the cause, the trust you had for your partner is now gone. Instead of believing them outright, you question everything they say. After a betrayal, it’s difficult to rebuild trust. It takes time and both parties need to be willing to put in the work. If you’re not, the relationship is over.
- You Fight About The Same Thing all the time. You don’t communicate effectively and because of that, none of your fights ever get resolved. This might not be a bad thing for small fights, but for big ones, they never end. You two fight about the same things over, and over again. Even if you start fighting about something trivial, like where to eat dinner, it always goes to something bigger. That’s a huge problem.
- You Wish You Were With Someone Else. Do you want to be with someone else? Sounds like your relationship is in trouble. It’s one thing to dream about dating Channing Tatum. It’s another thing to wish you were dating your co-worker, especially if you’re starting to confide in your co-worker on a deeper, emotional level. You might want to consider ending your relationship before you do something you’ll regret.
- You Don’t See A Future. Your relationship is starting to feel like a dead-end. There’s no progression. You haven’t grown, they haven’t grown; you’re both exactly where you were when you started dating. And what’s worse, you don’t see a way forward. You don’t want to get engaged to them or married. When you think about your future, your partner isn’t in it. So then, why are you with them now?
- Your Emotional Health Is Suffering. You used to be happy but now you’re borderline depressed. The fighting, the constant back and forth, it’s all wreaking havoc on your mental health. You’re experiencing emotions you’ve never felt before and they’re making you hate everything, even yourself. We’re not saying your partner is to blame. Sometimes relationships turn toxic even with the nicest of people. You need to walk away so your mental health can improve.
- You’ve Considered Ending It. You’ve thought about breaking up with your partner more than once. You’ve almost done it too, but you always stop yourself. Not because you’re second-guessing your feelings, because you’re not sure if you’re ready to be single. After all, it’s something new and new things can be scary. Don’t worry, you’ll make a move when you’re ready.
