There comes a time in every relationship when a woman wonders if her boyfriend is fully committed to her. Getting verbal confirmation that a guy is all-in isn’t particularly easy. Plus, you can’t always take a guy at his word; too many of us are seasoned fibbers. However, a guy’s actions almost never lie, so keep an eye out for these signs that he’s playing for keeps.
- He brings up the future. It’s one thing for a guy to politely entertain you talking about the future, but it’s completely different when he’s the one bringing it up. Guys typically aren’t eager to bring up future plans or the future of the relationship if they’re not at least open to commitment. Any time he wants to talk about something that’s happening beyond next week, it’s evidence that he’s serious about the relationship.
- He makes sacrifices for you. Unless it’s a new relationship and the guy is dying to sleep with you, he’s probably not keen on making any sacrifices unless he’s serious. Does he give up time with his friends or other things he loves to be with you? Does he go out of his way to prove that you’re a priority? More importantly, is he still doing them deep into a relationship? If so, you shouldn’t need to question his commitment too much.
- He embraces your friends and family. You can usually tell a guy’s level of commitment by the way he interacts with the people in your life. If he complains about having to spend time with your friends and family, he’s probably not going to be eager to stick around for the long term. On the other hand, does he make an effort to be friendly with the people you’re closest to? If it’s the latter, that’s a strong indication that he’s settling in for the long haul and is committed to you.
- He’s full of little surprises for you. We all know it’s the little things in life that matter, right? When a guy is committed to you, he’ll find ways to give you small gifts and surprises to show you his feelings. For instance, does he come back from the grocery store with everything on the shopping list and your favorite snack? That’s just one example of a way guys who are committed give you little surprises to convey their feelings.
- He shares his secrets. Most guys don’t share secrets with just anyone. Most of us only divulge certain information to people we trust. If your boyfriend isn’t at least open to the idea of commitment, he’s not going to let our guard down and talk about topics that are personal and uncomfortable. On the other hand, when a guy does open up to you emotionally, it’s usually a sign that he plans on sticking around.
- He trusts you with his phone. Sadly, we live in a world where this actually matters. But a guy’s commitment can be measured in how much he trusts you around his phone. Does he have secrets or incriminating texts hidden inside? If so, he’ll be adamant about you staying away from his phone. But if he leaves his phone out in the open without a care in the world, it’s a sign of both trust and commitment.
- He’s stoked to go on a road trip with you. Here’s the deal, you can fly to a beachside resort with anyone. I mean, most people would endure a few days with a mortal enemy if it meant visiting a five-star resort. But the couples who stay together are the couples who road trip together. If he’s willing to spend all day in the car, working as a team to not get lost, he’s committed. No guy would put himself through that if he wasn’t all-in on the relationship.
- He wants you to hang out with his friends. Only when a guy is committed for the long haul will he care about you being comfortable around his friends. Rather than you having to coerce him into it, he’ll want you to spend time with the guys. He’ll want you to tag along for excursions and feel like part of the group. He’ll know that’s how it’s supposed to be in a long-term relationship.
- He makes homemade gifts. I think we can agree that anybody can buy gifts for someone. Nowadays, you don’t even have to leave home to buy gifts. That makes homemade gifts the ultimate sign of love and commitment. Nobody puts in the time and effort to make a homemade gift for someone they don’t care about. Plus, you ladies shouldn’t be overly impressed by a guy who has money buying you something expensive. However, him giving you a homemade gift tells you everything you need to know about his intentions.
- He says “we.” This sounds simple enough because it’s easy to spot. But it’s actually a big deal. It takes a lot for a guy to go from “I” to “We.” It’s harder than you think for a guy to start thinking in those terms. It’s a massive change in a guy’s outlook on the world. But once he makes that change, it’s a safe bet that he’s committed and views your relationship as something long-term.
