10 Signs Your Relationship Is On Its Way Out

Is your relationship a sinking ship? While you might not notice (or want to notice) that you guys are headed for trouble, it’s time to open your eyes to the reality of your relationship. So, here are 10 signs to look out for that signal your relationship is on its way out and you probably won’t be a couple for much longer. Brace yourself because things are about to get bumpy.

  1. You’re slipping. You and your boyfriend used to be thoughtful with each other. He’d run you a bath when you’d had a stressful day, and you’d make him chicken soup when he seemed to be getting a cold. Do you guys still do these kinds and thoughtful gestures for each other? If not, that could be a sign that things are changing.
  2. You’re not each other’s first call. When something big happens to you, whether good or bad, is your boyfriend the first person you call? What about him – does he call you first when he’s got news? Being in a relationship means you should be on each other’s speed-dial because you wouldn’t want to share the news with anyone else or get support from anyone else.
  3. You think ‘wtf?’ a lot. Lately, it seems like your boyfriend is a completely different guy to the one you first fell for. Has someone switched bodies with him or something? It’s freaky, but it could be that he’s growing and changing in ways that are different to what’s going on with you. You guys might be headed for different journeys in life.
  4. You’re always at each other’s throats. If it seems like you guys can’t have a conversation without wanting to tear into each other, that’s a sign something major is off. You just don’t have common ground anymore, and worse than that, you don’t have respect for each other’s points of view.
  5. You’re not really in the same room. If you’re sitting in the same room or restaurant with the guy but it feels like you’re both on different planets, that’s a sure sign that there’s a ton of emotional distance between you. You guys have been pulling away from each other, maybe without even noticing it.
  6. You feel good when you’re away. Does it seem like you’re always feeling down and depressed when you’re around your boyfriend? Meanwhile, when you head out on your own to hang with friends or do something you love doing, you feel amped about life. This is a huge sign that your relationship isn’t giving you the same level of satisfaction and happiness that it used to give you.
  7. You’re not on his social calendar. He always used to make plans to see you the second he had free time, but now it seems like he doesn’t even spare a thought for quality time with you. You’re left having to get in touch to see if he wants to hang. That’s shady as hell. Clearly the guy’s priorities are changing.
  8. You feel like you’re fizzling out. It feels like your partner is slowly pulling away from you. He’s calling you a bit less, then texting a bit less, and seeing you a bit less. At first, it might not seem like a big deal, maybe because you both have busy lives, but after a while, you’ll probably wonder what’s going on. The guy could be trying to pull a slow fade on you.
  9. You’re daydreaming a lot. You might find yourself thinking about other people and what it would be like to date them, or even what it would be like to be single again. And, these thoughts don’t fill you with dread. While these thoughts might not be signs you’re unhappy with your current partner, if they’re consuming you they’re trying to tell you something. Remember, every action and decision starts with a thought…
  10. You’re not focused on the future. If you and your partner never speak about the future anymore, that’s a sign that you could be hitting a relationship dead-end. What is there to work towards if you’re both feeling “meh” about things? Huge red flag, ladies! If you can’t picture the guy in your future, don’t allow him to stand in the way of it!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.