10 Signs You’re Addicted To Love & It’s Ruining Your Life

Love can be a beautiful thing, but it’s not the only good thing in this life. It should never be rushed or forced, nor should the idea of finding love be more important than the love itself once it’s in your life. Here are 10 signs you’re addicted to love:

  1. You’re a serial dater. If you’re not in a relationship, you’re dating a lot. If you recently broke up with someone, you’re already looking for the next love of your life. You never take the time to be single and you don’t really know who you are on your own, which is a serious problem. Take a step back and focus on yourself for a while.
  2. Your rebounds always turn into relationships. If you just got out of a long-term relationship, you need to grieve and work through it, not immediately jump into something serious. Love addicts fall right back in, because whatever it takes, they want love now.
  3. You fall in love easily. Do you fall in love with every guy you date? If every guy is your type, you might just be addicted to the idea of love. True love is rare and it takes time, so make sure you’re not mistaking it for infatuation.
  4. You’re desperate to please. Relationships should be a partnership, but you’re doing a lot more than an equal share of the work. If you forsake your own happiness for his, you’re not doing the relationship any favors. Obsessing over his wants and needs will never give you the fulfillment you desire.
  5. You confuse sex with love. Acting on physical attraction doesn’t mean you share an emotional connection to a man. If you’re using sex to lure him in, that’s manipulation and it will never lead to the true love you desire.
  6. You love the chase. You thrive on the beginning of a relationship, but three months in, you tend to get a little bored. That’s when the honeymoon stage is over and the relationship is real. If he’s not doting over you, you’re not happy, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be kissing him goodbye because…
  7. You’re only happy when you’re in a relationship. If you’re only happy when you feel like someone else loves you, then you’re not really a whole person on your own. The mentality that “you’re nobody until somebody loves you,” is dead wrong. Love yourself first, and make you your top priority.
  8. You don’t want someone — you want anyone. You love the feeling of being loved so much that just about anyone will do. When it comes to finding someone you’d be happy to spend the rest of your life with, it’s OK to be a little picky.
  9. You stay in unhealthy relationships. Once the love is dying, you’re desperate to get it back. You associate happiness with being loved once again, so you don’t get out of a bad situation. Instead, you wait until your partner terminates the relationship, and when he does, you’re devastated until someone new catches your eye.
  10. Your love life is priority number one. No matter if it’s a long-term relationship or a brand new flame, your romance is the most important aspect of your life. You put him before friends, work, and even family. You’ll do anything to keep him, even if it means giving up the rest of your life.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.