It’s a sad truth that love can make you a little crazy. While too often men can be called out for pinning the crazy ex-girlfriend labels on women they’ve dated, sometimes the description actually fits. So which is it? Are you a typical ex or are you a bit more psychotic about your lost love? Here are 10 signs you need to take a step back:
- You repeatedly call/text… even though he never answers. If he’s not replying, there’s a reason for that, and it’s not that his phone miraculously didn’t get your message. He got it, loud and clear, and now you need to get the clue that it’s time to move on.
- You hack his accounts. If your ex gave you his passwords while you were still together, you don’t have the right to break into his social media. Even if you’re not doing anything to his accounts, wanting to check in on what he’s doing is no excuse for reading his private information.
- You’re still snooping, even though you’re blocked. If he defriended, unfollowed, and blocked you from all of his social media, then you’re obviously no longer welcome in his life. Don’t use your friends’ accounts to keep tabs on him. Take the hint, forget him, and let go.
- You’re still trying to lure him back in. Are you creating little lies to get his attention? How about excuses for your bad behavior while you were still an item? If he’s explained his reasons for dumping you, you need to accept them and move on, because no amount of begging or pleading will ever bring back what you thought you had.
- You straight up stalk him. Whether you’re driving past his house to see if he’s there or showing up wherever he checks in on social media, the games have got to stop. You can’t spend your days obsessing over his instagram pics, Facebook shares, and tweeted thoughts. Stop analyzing his life without you and start worrying about finding happiness on your own.
- You think about him obsessively. If you’re legit thinking about him all the time, it’s time for you to get a life. If he no longer wants to be a part of that life, then he doesn’t deserve to occupy space in your brain. So start thinking about yourself instead.
- You annoy his friends. They’re his friends, not yours, and they don’t want you badgering them for information about his new life. When his friends start avoiding you because even they think you need to get on with your life, it’s time to let that addiction go.
- You sabotage his love life. You’re no longer in the picture, and he’s free to date any girl he wants. Even if you manage to derail his next relationship, that doesn’t mean he’s ever going to give you another shot. Let him move on, and start focusing on how you’re going to move forward with your life.
- Your friends are sick of it. If your friends think you talk about your ex too much, they’re probably right. You trust your friends with everything else, so why not this? They’ve heard every detail of your breakup enough to feel like it was their own, so give them a break. Once you stop talking about it, you’ll stop thinking about it, and start to move on.
- You’re still posting about your breakup. Taking your breakup to social media isn’t cool. Did you rant the exact details of your breakup? How about posting depressing status updates? Or sharing every photo, video, and article about how men are the absolute worst? It looks pretty desperate to ruin his reputation and doesn’t do any favors for your own, so keep your cool and leave your private life to discuss with your real life friends instead of 500+ acquaintances.
