10 Signs You’re Way Too Good For Him & Need To Move On

It’s always good to give a guy a real chance and not just write him off the moment you meet. It takes time to get to know someone, after all, and first impressions aren’t always the truth. But at a certain point, you have to value yourself enough to wonder if the guy you’re dating is actually the right one for you, and that means figuring out if he’s just not on your level. Sounds harsh, but it’s an important part of the process of finding love. If you recognize any of these 10 signs that you’re too good for him, it’s probably time to find someone new.

  1. He has zero work ethic. You’re spending your spare moments worrying about your job and your weekends getting a leg up on your workload. He’s super lazy and hates his job or is unemployed. You’re definitely too good for someone who doesn’t care about having a fun, rewarding career. That’s just one struggle of dating when you’re a strong career woman.
  2. He doesn’t believe in anything. If he’s anti-commitment – and, sadly, a lot of people are these days – then chances are, he’s anti-everything else, too. He might not have the kinds of values that you’re looking for in a partner, and he won’t care about politics or arts and culture. You should be with a guy who believes in the courage of his convictions and in something in the world around him.
  3. You make all the plans. Sure, you were single for a while and got pretty used to making the dinner reservations and being in control of everything, but it’s nice when a guy puts in the effort sometimes, too. If you’re the only one planning dates and trips, that’s not a great sign.
  4. You have dreams; he dreams of pizza. Or something equally boring (sorry, pizza). If you dream big and want to make something of yourself, then you need to be with someone who is exactly the same. You’ll naturally want some compassion and understanding when you’re burning the midnight oil and super exhausted over working so hard. If he has no dreams, he won’t get it.
  5. He’s a smoker; you’re a health freak. Not everyone who smokes is a bad person, of course – that would be a huge generalization. But if you’re into your kale and barre classes and he doesn’t care that, um, smoking causes cancer, this might not be such a perfect match, after all.
  6. He doesn’t want to do anything… ever. We all love our nights in with junk food and TV. But that’s the single girl lifestyle. It’s supposed to feel different when you’ve got a boyfriend, isn’t it? So why are you staying in every night and never doing anything fun in your city?
  7. He’s anti-social; you’re a social butterfly. He doesn’t have to absolutely adore your BFFs or your fam. That might even be a bit creepy. But he has to at least be polite and civil and friendly towards them and be okay with hanging out with them. If he can’t do that or even says anything mean to you about the people in your life, and if he doesn’t ever want to go to the parties and events you’ve been invited to, then you definitely need to move on.
  8. He makes controlling comments. Some guys think it’s fair game to tell a girl what to do, what to wear, how to act, etc. Guess what? It’s horrible. If a guy is bossing you around, get rid of him now and don’t ever look back. I don’t care how nice he seems – he’s just playing you.
  9. He’s emotionally manipulative and/or a total liar. Maybe you can’t tell that he’s lying because it’s not super obvious, but there are some inconsistencies in his life story. Or he knows how to whine and get his way when you call him out on his bad behavior. You deserve a guy who tells the truth, always, without fail and can deal with his emotions without using them on you.
  10. People say he doesn’t deserve you. Your friends can’t like every single guy you date, because that’s just not realistic, but they should always be on board. If you’re being told that this guy is just not on your level, you should listen. Your friends and family want the best for you, so they’re saying this for a good reason.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.