10 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friendship

10 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friendship ©iStock/Izusek

Some friendships are meant to last forever, and some are meant to end when you start the next chapter in your life. Losing friends is part of growing up, because not everyone grows in the same direction. If you’re outgrowing a friend who used to be a bestie, you’ll relate to these 10 signs:

  1. You’re always apologizing for her. Whether she’s drunk for no reason, being mean to random girls in public, or talking condescendingly to the wait staff at brunch, you find yourself regularly apologizing for her rude and immature behavior. What you used to find amusing about her personality is now just embarrassing, and you wish she’d have a little more respect for other people.
  2. You don’t invite her to hang out with your new friends. You branched out and made new friends, and you just don’t feel like she’d mesh well with them. They have more in common with the person you are today, so you try to keep your old friends and new friends separate.
  3. If you met her today, you probably wouldn’t like her. If you think about a hypothetical situation where today is the first time you two meet, you can’t imagine it ending in a friendship. You’d most likely really dislike her.
  4. Your favorite thing to do together is reminisce about the past. You love talking about the good old days over a few drinks, but that’s about the only thing you like to do together now. Any other activity feels forced and awkward.
  5. You lowkey hope something bad happens to her. Nothing terrible, but maybe a small consequence for her ridiculous and childish behavior. She’s a disaster, so maybe a little bad luck would force her to start growing up.
  6. You make bad decisions together. She brings out your worst self, and you seem to revert back to a teenager who’s incapable of making good decisions when you two hang out. It’s not entirely her fault, because part of you can’t seem to help yourself.
  7. When you go out, you always hate your life the next morning. You don’t have much in common these days, so a night out usually involves heavy drinking. When your hangover is killing you the next morning, you start to think it’s in your liver’s best interest to stop dragging this friendship out any longer.
  8. She doesn’t encourage you to grow. In fact, she makes fun of you for growing up. If it was up to her, you’d remain the same, immature person she met all those years ago.
  9. You’re slightly disappointed when you see a text is from her. That happy feeling you get when your phone beeps quickly dissipates when you realize she’s the sender. Now you have to decide if you’re going to deal with her or construct an elaborate lie about being busy.
  10. The friendship starts to feel like a chore. Her presence is sort of a burden to you now. Even when you’re excited to hang out, the evening quickly plummets into misery and you regret leaving your house. You know this isn’t how a friendship should feel, but it’s so hard to actually let go.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.