10 Small Signs You’re Ready To Meet ‘The One’

It can be depressing and demoralizing to keep dating and not meet anyone that you click with. Sometimes it’s best to think about the small wins so you don’t go crazy. If you can relate to these things, then your love life is turning around for the better:

  1. You no longer go on epically bad dates. You should totally celebrate if this is the case. You may think that your dates suck because you’re not getting any second dates or having magical evenings that make you believe in love again, but you should give your first dates more credit. If you’re learning more about the kind of guy that you want to date (and the kind of guy that you don’t), that’s a huge deal.
  2. You feel like the puzzle pieces are finally in place. There’s no rhyme or reason about when you meet the person that you’re meant to be with. Your love life is definitely looking up, though, if you feel like everything in your life is finally in order, from your job to your friendships to your interests. You’ve gotten yourself to a stage where you’re ready for a real relationship, and that’s no small feat.
  3. You’re making the first move more often. If you’re online dating, then you’ve probably figured out that there’s nothing wrong with sending the first message. You’re not living in the 1950s, and if you see guys that you’re interested in chatting with, why would you wait for them to somehow realize that and contact you? If you’re sending out messages on a regular basis, then that’s a great sign since eventually, those messages are going to turn into dates. One of those dates is bound to turn into something if you just keep at it.
  4. You’re over dating breaks. You don’t feel like you need a time-out from dating because you’ve finally realized that you can’t control when you meet someone that you connect with. It’s all up to the universe, so you might as well give yourself the best chance of finding someone. You’re totally over going weeks or months without a date, because you feel that’s only delaying the inevitable.
  5. You have a different attitude. Instead of feeling like there’s no point going on a second date unless you had a super special first one, you’ve learned that a first date is really just the first time that you meet someone. You have a whole new and totally different attitude about dating, and it’s really working for you. When you can say yes to more second dates, you’re giving more guys another chance, and that can only be a positive thing.
  6. You’ve stopped overthinking. You’ve learned the hard way that you can worry about a first date for days… and then the guy bails last minute. You’re done with wasting your own time and you’ve honestly stopped your bad habit of overthinking. It’s a super small change, and yet it’s going to make your life a million times easier.
  7. You know that you can’t force anything. It’s super tempting to keep seeing a new guy because the idea of going on your dating apps again is just too painful. But forcing someone to be the person that you want them to be is never going to work out. If it doesn’t feel right, then he’s totally wrong for you. You’ve gotten really good at listening to yourself, even when something is hard to hear.
  8. You can spot the red flags almost immediately. You’re done with dating a guy for two months and then realizing that, oops, he’s not the normal, nice guy that you thought he was; he’s actually super weird. You can figure out how to read someone super fast, and that makes your dating life much less stressful.
  9. You finally get that dating is a necessary evil. Sure, you’re never going to absolutely adore going on first dates, and you probably shouldn’t. That would mean that you want to keep things superficial forever, and that’s not you since you’re actually looking for something real. You’ve figured out that dating is a necessary evil and that there’s no point complaining about how awful it is. You want to meet someone, and that means going on dates. Period.
  10. You actually look forward to your next date. Hallelujah, right? If you’ve gotten to the point where dating feels fun instead of stressful AF, and if you feel like your next date could be the one that finally works out, then congrats. Your love life is looking up, and you should be super happy about that.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.