A guy’s dating or social media profile can say a lot about him, saving you a lot of time in advance if you pick up on the right things before you get too involved. But which elements of his online presence are actually big red flags? Well, get ready to take a closer look to see if he’s a keeper or a loser who won’t change by looking for these 10 things.
- It’s full of humblebrags. It’s normal to talk about big accomplishments like an exciting promotion or a graduation, but if he finds the stupidest things to brag about like his sneaker collection, or how he’s somehow “always on the grind” as if no one else works for a living, then you might want to pass. Guys like these only have room for their ego.
- His favorite movies and shows that he lists are full of sexist themes. If having a respectful guy is important to you, then you might want to keep an eye out for what he idolizes. If there isn’t one movie that isn’t about men being macho and women being nothing but sex objects, then that’s probably a reflection of how he views women.
- His pictures are questionable. Do you truly have a good picture of what he looks like? Many guys try to slip under the radar by only having pictures in sunglasses, group pictures, or just flat out blurry pictures then he probably has something to hide. He could be lying about who he is, his age, or just very insecure about how he looks.
- It’s filled with sub tweeting or passive aggressive statuses. So you thought everything was fine until you find a feed full of music lyrics, emotional quotes, and pointed messages. You want to be with someone that is happy and drama-free. This red flag shows that this guy is none of those things.
- There are a bunch of other girls on it. Every posting has multiple women commenting on it as if they are all competing for his attention. He might say that they’re all just friends, but this could be a sign that he’s just a player. You’re special. Don’t be one of the many girls trying to win him over.
- It says he’s in a relationship with a “friend.” Boyfriends who have a public relationships on Facebook, but still claim that it’s a joke with a friend are running rampant. No matter how much you like him, don’t fall for it! No one jokes about being in a relationship publicly if they are trying to date around.
- Or his status is just “it’s complicated”. Why get in the middle of something complicated when you can start off things simple with something else? Complicated could mean a number of things like being separated, but legally married. You should ask what this status means and figure out if you could deal with the answer.
- The motto “YOLO” is all over it. Some people who live by this have good intentions, but others use it as an excuse to make bad decisions. If he has a bunch of photos and statuses over his love of partying and drinking using the excuse of YOLO, then run! This type of behavior isn’t good for a relationship.
- Sex is somehow a running theme. Sirens should go off whether it’s a dating profile full of what he finds sexy in a woman that has very little do with anything other than looks, or a social profile full of TMI statuses. If you want something based off of a real connection, then find a guy who is deeper.
- The woman he is looking for obviously doesn’t exist. Maybe the guy’s profile has a laundry list of things that he is searching for in one woman. However he will probably always be single because no woman will measure up. Skip it! It’s already hard enough to be all the things you expect yourself to be. You don’t need to try and fit someone else’s impossible criteria too.