When you reach the point in your single woman journey where you know exactly who you want to be with, it’s both a blessing and a curse. Sure, it’s awesome that you have your dream partner figured out, but there are a lot of things that aren’t so great. When you have your ideal man in your mind’s eye, but haven’t met him yet, the struggle is definitely real.
- You almost wish that you could settle. It’s not that you think that settling is a good idea — you know the opposite is true. But sometimes, when you’ve gone on a handful of first dates and are still single because you knew none of those guys were right, part of you wishes that you could just settle. At least then you wouldn’t be alone and maybe it wouldn’t be so bad. Then you snap back into reality since you know that unless you find the right person, you’re not going to date anyone.
- You feel like you’re too picky. Deep down, you know that you’re not that picky — or you’re just picky enough, depending on the perspective. You know who you want to date, and you aren’t interested in guys who don’t have the qualities or personality that you’re searching for. The only problem with that? You have days where you feel like you’re rejecting way too many guys and think you should lighten up.
- You start to resent being alone. You’ve got this single girl lifestyle down pat, and you have a routine and a life that you enjoy. That doesn’t mean you don’t have your low moments, of course. When you have a clear idea of who your future boyfriend should be, you feel like it’s nuts that you haven’t met him yet… and you might start to seriously reset the fact that you’re still on your own. Isn’t figuring out what you want half the battle? You know who this guy is, so where is?
- You wonder if you’re paranoid. You have no problem turning back at the first sign of trouble in a new relationship, almost-relationship, or situationship. Since you’re determined to only date a guy that feels like the right fit, you always listen to your gut. But sometimes, you struggle with wondering if you’re being totally paranoid. Should you always be so quick to walk away? What if you stay and work things out? You always realize later that you did the right thing — it just can be hard to be so certain all the time.
- You rarely go on dates. People say that dating is a numbers game, and that usually means going on as many first dates as possible in order to up your chances of meeting someone amazing. You really wish that you could do that. Instead, you find yourself rarely going on dates. You can’t say yes unless you’re absolutely sure that this guy would be worth meeting in person. While it’s awesome that you’re not simply going on dates for the sake of it, you do get the feeling that you’re not doing everything that you can to meet someone.
- Your friends and family think you’ve given up. The people in your life don’t even bother asking if you’re seeing someone anymore; they know the answer is a big fat no. You hate that they think you’ve given up, because you totally haven’t. You’re just trying to be more cautious with who you give your heart to.
- You can’t help judging the relationships around you. Since you’re so sure that you need to be single until you find your perfect fit, you find yourself being super judgmental when you observe the couples around you. You figure that most people are settling and that if they would think a bit harder about who they really wanted to be with, they would dump their current partners ASAP.
- You feel like something is missing. You swear you know exactly who you want to be with, and it’s seriously cramping your single girl style. You always catch yourself looking around, feeling like something (or someone) is missing. You wish that you could just enjoy this phase while you’re still in it. Sometimes you can, but most of the time, you feel like you’re operating only at 50 percent — if your dream guy would just appear, everything would be okay.
- You wonder if you’re going crazy. If you tell people that you’re *this* close to finding real love, you swear they’re going to say that you’re kind of insane. No one knows when love is going to happen, right? Isn’t that the entire point? You wonder if you’re going crazy, too, since you really do have this feeling that you’re close to meeting the guy that you’ve been searching for.
- You fight the urge to be bitter 24/7. You know that you’re one more single year away from being a jaded, prematurely old woman and you’re doing everything in your power to stop that from happening. It’s just hard to stop thinking that you deserve love and how much of a shame it is that you’re still on your own. Even though this might be the reality for a lot of single women, it doesn’t make it suck any less for you.
