10 Struggles Only Girls Who Are Like “One of the Guys” Understand

It’s one thing to have a few guy friends you’re comfortable with, but it’s another thing entirely to be accepted into the inner circle of a brocentric group of dudes. Sure, they know you’re a girl. You still have boobs, after all, but there’s a definite difference between how they interact with you and how they interact with other girls who make their way in and out of the group. You’re like one of the guys, and while most of the time it’s great, there are certain struggles that you just wouldn’t have to deal with if all your besties were girls.

  1. Other girls are suspicious of you. You know the drill. One of your guy friends brings a new girl to meet the bros, and she narrows her eyes ever so slightly when he introduces you. You know what she’s thinking: “Is this girl my competition?” If she’s cool, it won’t be an issue for long, but it still sucks that you’re considered guilty until proven innocent.
  2. They never have a spare tampon. You can’t exactly interrupt the game to ask if anyone has a “sanitary napkin” in their wallet. If you get a surprise period, you’re pretty much on your own because they don’t even want to hear about it.
  3. You’ll always be the one that has to stop somewhere with an actual toilet when you have to pee. You wish you could just go on the side of the road like the rest of them just so you don’t have to hear their groans half way through every road trip when you request a pit stop.
  4. You sometimes feel like you need to hide your emotions. Guys often erroneously label girls who get emotional as “nuts”. You’ve seen them do it to girls they’ve dated so many times that you’ve learned to hide your true feelings when something upsets you because you’re not used to having friends who actually want to talk about how they feel.
  5. You risk ridicule if you feel like a margarita instead of a beer one night. Guys don’t drink fancy blended drinks, and you know if you order one, you’ll never hear the end of it. Beer it is.
  6. Guys you date are threatened by how close you are with other guys. There are always going to be guys who can’t handle a girl who has a lot of guy friends. But at least they’ll show their ugly side early, and you’ll be able to move on to someone who isn’t so insecure.
  7. Your mom keeps asking which one your boyfriend is. She’s always talking about how sweet your friends are, and wondering how you could possibly still be single when you have so many guys to choose from.
  8. No guys will hit on you in bars, because you’re already surrounded by men. It takes an irrationally confident guy to go up to a girl who is with a bunch of guys already. He has no idea if you aren’t already married to one of them, and no guy likes getting punched. Their brain will file you under “off limits” with a single glance just to be safe.
  9. You find yourself judging other girls for their more “feminine” qualities. You’ve become so comfortable with your masculine side that you’ve suppressed your feminine side just so you can keep your coveted position as the “cool girl”. Maybe you genuinely don’t like shopping that much, but there’s nothing wrong with girls who do, so don’t be that girl who puts down other girls to impress guys.
  10. You start saying things like “sorry for being such a girl”. Your buddies have enough friends who are actual guys, they don’t need you to pretend to be one too. You’re a girl who likes a lot of the same stuff as them, and that’s why they like having you around. But they don’t want you to fake it. You have a unique perspective and tons to offer just as you are, so embrace it, and all your dude friends will too.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, Complex.ca and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo