10 Things A Woman Who Knows Her Worth Needs From Her Relationships

There are certain things that women who know their worth require from their relationships. These are non-negotiable, no matter how much you like a person or want to be in a relationship. Here are some things that you should never compromise on when looking for a partner because you deserve these things at the very minimum.

  1. Respect There are many ways a person should be respected. Your partner should respect your career choices, your relationships with your family and friends, your boundaries, and your values. You don’t have to agree on everything. Women who are insecure and want to please their partners often try to change themselves to fit the person they’re with. But a woman who knows her worth requires a partner who accepts her differences and respects them.
  2. Time alone Everyone needs space sometimes. Even couples need time apart to reconnect with themselves. If you don’t value your worth, you might feel rejected or abandoned if your partner expresses a desire to be alone. But if you’re secure in yourself, you will want alone time. You’ll come to value it as a crucial component of self-care and your relationship with yourself.
  3. Honesty, no matter what Truth can hurt, but it’s better to know painful truths than to live in the dark. Partners who respect each other and are confident in themselves are able to share even uncomfortable things with each other. If you aren’t honest, you will not have trust. And without trust, you can never have a healthy relationship.
  4. Personal growth Being in a healthy relationship means that you will evolve as a couple and learn how to be better partners for each other. A woman who knows her worth isn’t afraid to ask for more from her partner or to accept similar feedback from them. Instead of becoming defensive or hurt, confident women want to change for the better and are secure enough to have high standards for their partners too.
  5. Independence No one wants to have everything in common with their partner. If they did, they’d be better off being single. Women who know their worth are strong enough to desire qualities in their partners that they do not share. The more active and fulfilled the other person is in themselves, the happier you will be as a couple.
  6. Prioritization You need a partner who prioritizes you. No matter how independent you and your partner are, you need to know at the end of the day that your relationship comes first. If you need your partner, he will be there. When it comes to a decision between you and his work or friends or hobbies, there is no question that you will come first. If you value yourself, you will only accept a partner who values you, too.
  7. Time to develop If you’re insecure about your worth, you may jump into relationships and become serious very quickly. But healthy relationships take time to take on their true form. Knowing your value means that you will take your time getting to know someone before you decide whether they’re good enough for you. You should never dive into a new relationship out of fear of being alone.
  8. Change You want a partner who pushes you to be your best self. You don’t want to stagnate as an individual and you definitely don’t want to stagnate as a couple. Change can be painful. But your world will change whether you choose it or not. Having a partner who pushes you to evolve as a person and as a partner will make your life and relationship more exciting and fulfilling in the long run.
  9. Sexual gratification Every woman knows what it’s like to fake it. Some women are so used to faking it that they’ve lost sight of an alternative. But if you know your value, you won’t be content with making your partner satisfied and receiving nothing in return. If you’re with someone who isn’t concerned about your pleasure, or you’re in the habit of pretending you’re enjoying sex just to make him feel good about himself, you’re not valuing yourself enough. In order to be happy, you need to get just as much out of your sex life as your partner does.
  10. Constructive conflict Couples need to argue sometimes. If your partner has made you angry or hurt your feelings, they need to know. If you avoid arguing, you’re internalizing all the negative emotions you feel towards them. This is a short-term solution that will eventually destroy you emotionally and come out in destructive ways in your relationship. Arguing effectively means that get your point across without being needlessly hurtful, and listening to what your partner has to say in response.
Rose Nolan is a writer and editor from Austin, TX who focuses on all things female and fabulous. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Theater from the University of Surrey and a Master's Degree in Law from the University of Law. She’s been writing professional since 2015 and, in addition to her work for Bolde, she’s also written for Ranker and Mashed. She's published articles on topics ranging from travel, higher education, women's lifestyle, law, food, celebrities, and more.