10 Things A Guy Says & Does That Should Ping Your BS Detector

You’ve been dating a guy and it’s been going great. It’s just that lately, his actions don’t quite agree with his words and the whole situation is making you seriously scratch your head. Does he like you as much as he says he does or is he simply telling you what he thinks you want to hear? Time to switch on your BS detector and figure out what’s going on.

  1. He says he really likes you when you’re together but you rarely hear from him when you’re not. This is a perfect example of a guy’s actions not agreeing with his words. If he liked you as much as he says he does, he’d be messaging you all the time. When there are true feelings involved, there’s no stopping guys. They’re like men on a mission. Ladies, trust me—if he’s not messaging you much at all when you’re not with him, then there’s a reason. In the worst case scenario, the reason is that he’s pursuing other girls.
  2. He says he’d love to see you more often but he’s always “too busy” to hang. If a guy is telling you how keen he is to meet up more but then comes up with all kinds of excuses when it actually comes down to it, this is a major red flag. You have to assess how much of a priority you actually are in his life if he’s promising you the world but then he’s unable to deliver on the bare minimum.
  3. He says it’s not all about the sex but he always wants to stay in. When you’re in the early stages of dating someone new, the guy should want to take you out just as much as he wants a cozy night in together. I mean, it’s called dating for a reason—you go out on dates. If he’s always trying to get you to go over to his house or he always wants to come to yours, then I’d have to question his motives. Does he want something meaningful or does he just want casual sex?
  4. He says he’s not interested in anyone else but his social media tells a different story. For example, who’s the single girl that he keeps tagging in memes on Facebook and why are you not best friends with him on Snapchat? I’ll tell you why: because he’s best friends with someone else, honey. If there are other ladies all over his social media all the livelong day, he’s BSing you.
  5. He says he can see a future with you but changes the subject when you mention exclusivity. In my experience, there’s a reason why a guy strongly avoids this particular topic of conversation. It’s because he’s afraid that he can’t tell you what you want to hear since you’re both not on the same page when it comes to exclusivity. Wise up, girl. Force him to have the conversation with you because you need to know where you stand either way.
  6. He says nothing happened between him and another girl even though your friends saw them all over each other at the bar. Ding ding ding—this one is coming up high on the BS detector! The guy is quite clearly lying in this instance and trying to diffuse a messy situation because he knows full well that something happened with the girl in question. When it comes to these kinds of situations, you shouldn’t even hesitate to trust your friend over the new guy in your life. Get rid of him, and fast.
  7. He claims he’s a nice guy and a gentleman but doesn’t do many gentlemanly things. Now, these “gentlemanly” things could range from not opening doors for you to making you pay the whole bill for your dates. Never trust a guy who claims to be a gentleman, especially when his actions say the total opposite. He’s talking the talk but most definitely not walking the walk.
  8. He says he didn’t text you because he fell asleep but he was last seen on WhatsApp at 4 a.m. Nah. In this case, I hate to have to break it to you, but the dude was obviously just too busy doing something or someone to reply to you. In this day and age, everybody checks their phone before they go to bed—especially during nights out when they’ve had a few too many. I mean, hello? You’ve heard of drunk dialling, right?
  9. He says he’d never treat you badly but, uh, he’s doing exactly that. Perhaps he’s done one or more of the things I mentioned previously or there have been other instances which have made you extremely suspicious of him, but your gut feeling is telling you that he’s a BS-er who’s messing you around. And you know what? You should totally listen to your gut.
  10. He says he’s not ready for a relationship but he goes Facebook official with another girl. This just says it all really, doesn’t it? Stinger. Ladies, the key lesson here is to always trust your instincts and switch on that bullshit detector if you think something’s not quite adding up. Your future self will thank you for it.


Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at https://trendytourist.co.uk.