If You’re An Independent Woman, You Probably Do These Things Differently

The idea of being strong and independent all on your own is thrilling — a goal for modern women everywhere. But you can still be an independent woman AND be in a relationship. Sure, having this title might seem to be a little challenging for some guys since they’re probably not used to dating someone who’s used to having their space and doing things solo. Still, it’s something they’re bound to be attracted to. After all, independent women don’t need anyone else to stay strong. You’re fully aware of your strengths and you’ll do whatever you can to reach your goals. Here’s what else sets you apart.

1. You’re not afraid of doing things alone.

There’s no need for you to pester your friends on a group chat, hoping someone else will feign interest in going. You already bought your single ticket to Fifty Shades of Grey on Fandango and don’t need anyone else to share that popcorn with. In fact, she kind of prefers seeing movies by herself. That way, you can form your own opinion about it and not just chat about how attractive Jamie Dornan is on the car ride home.

2. You get stuff done without complaining.

The average person might use the snow as a reason not to head to the grocery store. You lace up your boots, put on your winter hat, and realize that driving slowly and carefully will just be a minor inconvenience if it means having fresh fruit and vegetables in the house. Of course, there are times when you’ll want to whine and moan like everyone else, but that doesn’t stop you from completing your daily missions.

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4. You don’t need a husband to have a family.

If your biological clock is ticking, she’s not using your lack of a boyfriend or husband to deter you from having the role of a lifetime – who says raising kids on your own is too hard? The independent woman will laugh at all of the old-fashioned statements that a child needs a father and a mother since you know you can be both and do an amazing job at it — even if that means you won’t have much time for anything else.

5. You don’t struggle to make decisions.

When you hang out with friends, you don’t hesitate to share your opinions on what you should do and where you should eat – and you’re so convincing that none of your friends ever second-guess you. The independent woman knows what she wants in life and doesn’t waste time waffling through various options – why bother when you’re certain?

6. You’re quick to offer advice — and it’s valuable.

You always make time for your friend and they trust your advice implicitly, likely because you base your advice on life experience and not just stuff you read in a magazine. While your advice might include some tough love, you’re often right. The independent woman never means to hurt someone’s feelings, but you’re definitely not sugarcoating anything.

7. You multitask better than most.

Everything you need to do, you do yourself. You don’t depend on someone else to clean up the kitchen, pay the bills or feed the pets — you’ve created your own routine that you’ll stick by for life. People might assume you’re Superwoman, but the truth is, you’re bound to get incredibly bored without something going on.

8. You can be pretty intimidating, even if you don’t mean to be.

The independent woman might have an RBF, but it doesn’t mean you’re a cruel and demanding person — and eventually, with a little more exposure, people will realize how smart and kind-hearted you truly are. Quite frankly, people can often be intimidated by someone who has full control over their life and you do. You have your opinions and you’re well-read, but just because you might not suggest the plan doesn’t mean you don’t want to go out with your friends to get manicures. Even if your schedule is packed, you’ll always try your hardest to make time for social events.

9. You’re not quick to ask for help, but you’re not afraid to, either.

Everyone needs a little bit of help every once in a while, but the independent woman will use others as a last resort. You’re so used to managing everything on your own that to you, having a friend lend a helping hand might even be a little mortifying. However, you know when you can’t go it alone and have enough humility to ask for help when you truly need it.

10. You don’t live on social media.

No one will see a status like “Finally put the kids to sleep! Now time for a well-deserved glass of wine!” on your page. You’ll put the kids to bed, have your wine and require no validation in doing so. You’re not about showboating your achievements, since you don’t judge your life worth on likes and comments. Social media isn’t your life. Thank goodness.

11. You’ll never settle.

After college, the only job you could land was as a receptionist. You were happy for the money and the exposure to office work – and in your head, you’ll be running that company someday. Even if you like your foot-in-the-door job, you won’t be there for long. Even more, you won’t even consider lunches out with your coworkers on your pro and con list when it’s time to move forward. Sure, you like the time you spent with them, but you’re fully aware that everyone at that office would take the better opportunity if given the chance.

Things women who value their independence care about most

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1. Choosing your own path

It’s incredibly freeing to be able to decide what you want to do and when. You don’t have to have the same career as your parents or go to the same college as your friends. It’s your life and your choice. You’re free to change your path and goals at any time.

2. Equality in relationships

An independent woman isn’t afraid of letting a guy take control sometimes in a relationship. You just expect to be able to do the same. You don’t want to be treated as a weak, frail creature. You want to be treated as an equal partner at all times.

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4. Good conversation

Finding good conversation sometimes seems like a lost cause. When you do find it, you value it. You love having an intelligent conversation that goes beyond “who did you hook up with last night?” or random celebrity gossip. You want something that leaves you thinking and helps you learn more about the person you’re talking to.

5. Good friends who accept you

Who says independent women don’t have friends? You’re just picky about who your friends are. You want good friends who don’t try to change them. You’re usually seen with a small group filled with different interests. Odds are, most of them are independent women. too.

6. Not having to rely on anyone else

It’s a major confidence boost to be able to take care of yourself. Sure, it’s nice to have help sometimes, but it’s not something you expect. You work hard to have your own place, car, and things. You learn how to do basic repairs. Basically, you figure things out without leaning on everyone else for help

7. Achieving success.

Yes, success does matter. Independence doesn’t just magically happen. It means setting goals and being able to work towards them. This is part of how you became an independent woman. Success is valuable because it means you worked hard for what matters to you.

8. Your own happiness

You don’t depend upon others to make you happy. You know you’re in control of making yourself happy. It’s why you value that happiness so much. After all, if you do that all on your own, you know you’re truly independent.

9. Freedom from relationship statuses

You hate all the drama from other women who define themselves by their relationship status. They’re fine if they’re with someone, but they crumble when they’re single. You’re so beyond all that. You value not having to worry about your relationship or lack thereof. Life goes on regardless.

10. Your beliefs and morals

Talk to any independent woman and you’ll quickly discover they have strong beliefs and morals. It’s like we have our own personal code. It’s part of what makes us stronger and more successful in life. Sure, those beliefs are always being challenged, but we stand strong by what we believe in.

11. Being challenged

Doing the same thing every day is boring. You never have a chance to learn or grow. You value challenges in life. Whether it’s a random home improvement project or having to learn French for a business trip, you’re excited by the opportunity. You’re always eager to learn something new. Challenges are the best way to do that.

12. Respect

It might seem simple, but respect means the world to independent women. When it comes to the important people in our lives, we want to be respected. Whether it’s family, friends or co-workers, we want to be respected for who we are and what we do. The best part is you don’t just expect it, you work hard to earn it.

13. Always learning something new

You know knowledge is power. You don’t wait for a challenge to learn more. You’re always reading blogs, taking online courses and learning from those you admire. You value what you learn because you know it’ll help you grow as a person.

14. Alone time

It’s true that an independent woman doesn’t need people around all the time. You’re perfectly fine being by herself sometimes. You value that time because it’s a chance to think, de-stress and plan out new goals. You know you need time to work on you and you’re happy when you get a few hours to yourself.

15. Your health

I’m not talking about dieting until you’re a size 0. Most independent women you see are healthy. We take care of ourselves because we value ourselves. We know to achieve what we want in life and be truly happy, we have to focus on living a healthier life.

Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.