10 Things I No Longer Obsess About Since I Found Love

10 Things I No Longer Obsess About Since I Found Love

When I was single, I spent a lot of time worrying about how I was perceived because I was constantly wondering if my future husband was nearby. Now that I’ve found him, I’m completely at peace with myself. I find myself giving zero f*cks about a lot of things that used to concern me, and it’s one of the best side effects of being in love.

  1. I don’t obsess over whether my hair and makeup are on point. Now that I’m in a happy relationship, I don’t feel the need to impress random strangers. I already have the love of an awesome dude and I see it lasting forever; I don’t need accolades from anyone else. If I have an occasion to dress up, I will, but the days of putting on makeup to go grocery shopping are over.
  2. I don’t obsess over whether I gained 2 lbs eating pizza last night. Most likely, I was eating pizza with my dude and having an amazing time. We have an incredible time hanging out together, and I know that he loves me whether I’m up a few pounds or down a few. Finally, I can relax!
  3. I don’t obsess about what the “hot” douchebag across the bar thinks of me. When I was single, I would have been wondering if he found me attractive, but I honestly don’t give a damn anymore who finds me attractive. I’ve found my perfect match, and he thinks I’m gorgeous all the time.
  4. I don’t obsess over whether any of my dude friends are feeling me as more than a friend. Sorry, but you have a 0% chance of stealing me away from the best relationship of my life. I waited over 30 years to meet this man, and I have no plans to let him slip away. Even if I thought we may be compatible at some point, obviously I didn’t feel anything deeply enough to take action, so please feel free to remain friendly with me but don’t hope for anything more.
  5. I don’t obsess over whether I ever speak to any of my exes again. I cleaned house and got rid of toxic people; I refuse to apologize for that because I should have done it so much sooner. I’d actually prefer if none of them resurfaced, so I can continue moving forward rather than regressing.
  6. I don’t obsess over what anyone thinks of my boyfriend. He’s eccentric and so am I; it’s just one of the reasons we’re such a perfect match. If anyone thinks he’s lame, they wouldn’t like my true personality either.
  7. I don’t obsess over the silly dating “rules.” I don’t avoid talking about the future for fear of scaring him away, nor do I ignore his texts for hours because I’m pretending to be too busy to see him. The right relationship doesn’t employ silly middle school mind games like that; it allows us to communicate honestly like adults should.
  8. I don’t obsess over my options being closed off. That’s exactly how I know the relationship is right: I don’t mind being off the market romantically. In fact, it’s a relief.
  9. I don’t obsess over whether we take our time on this journey instead of rushing. When I was single, I heard the clock ticking really loudly and I worried  that I may not meet someone in time to have a family. Now, I’m not worried about it anymore; I know we want the same thing, in time. As a nice bonus, I’m only in my early 30s so I get to relax and be child-free for a little while longer.
  10. I don’t obsess over whether I’ll ever go on another first date again. In fact, I’d prefer not to. It took years to find something so good; I’m in for the long haul.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible.