Don’t Ruin Your New Relationship By Stressing About These 10 Things

You know that the beginning of a new relationship should be a fun, exciting, and magical time, but as far as you’re concerned, it’s also the most stressful. You can’t stop freaking out over every little thing and you’re struggling to remember why you thought it would be a good idea to look for love. Knock it off, because these 10 things really aren’t worth stressing over:

  1. Crazy long delays between texts. Yup, it’s 2016 and you can’t stop worrying if your boyfriend hates you because it’s been two hours since you texted him asking if he wants to order in or go out tonight. Phones are basically the worst thing that have happened to humanity… and dating. Seriously, he got busy or was actually, you know, working.
  2. Who makes the plans. Why are you keeping score? He doesn’t like you any less if you’re the planner in the relationship. Maybe he’s super chill and just assumes you’re going to see each other on a regular basis. Nothing wrong with that.
  3. When you’re finally going to sleep together. Every couple is different and there’s no right or wrong time to finally have sex with someone new. Don’t compare yourself to your friends or think about your last relationship. As long as you’re both on the same page, things should work out.
  4. Why you haven’t met his friends yet. For some reason, it seems like things are only official if you’ve been introduced to your boyfriend’s friends and family, but everyone has different timelines and expectations. If you’ve only been seeing each other for a few months, it’s not unreasonable that you haven’t gotten the intro yet.
  5. Whether you’re too different. It’s awesome when two people are both homebodies or total extroverts — it definitely makes things a little easier. But if you swear by time on your couch and your boyfriend is a party animal, that doesn’t mean you should breakup. Be honest about how much time at home you actually want and as long as you’re willing to go out with him sometimes, it should be fine.
  6. Whether you want the same things. There’s a lot of pressure to know if you and your boyfriend both want a serious commitment, to get married, have kids, etc. It’s too much to know all at once. Don’t sweat it if some things are still pretty murky — there’s lots of time to really figure out if this is the right person for you. Just focus on the good times right now.
  7. Why your friends hate him. It’s super awesome when all the people that you love get along, but sometimes that’s just a dream. There are tons of different reasons for why your friends don’t seem as happy about your new guy as you are. Maybe they’re jealous because it’s been ages since they had a decent date or maybe they’re stressing about work. Don’t sweat it.
  8. If you two communicate well. Communication is definitely key to a healthy relationship but it’s not worth worrying about. If you’re both happy with the way things are, who’s to say there’s a problem?
  9. If you have nothing in common. It’s a total myth that you have to have common hobbies or interests if your relationship is going to work. Who made that rule? So you’re a coach potato and your BF is a sports star — big deal.
  10. Why you always reach out first. Sure, it’s not great if you’re the only one getting in touch, but most guys aren’t great about texting. As long as he lets you know that he cares and is thinking about you and you’re not the only one keeping your relationship alive, things should be okay.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.