10 Things It’s Totally OK To Be Unsure About

Everyone has that one friend who’s always super together. They’ve got the best hair, they work out every day of the week and cook magical organic meals in minutes, and they never seem to waffle over decisions. You, on the other hand, aren’t like that — and that’s actually a good thing. If you need a lot of time to make decisions, you’re more normal than you think. Here are 10 things it’s OK to be unsure about:

  1. The new guy or girl in your life. You’ve gone on a handful of dates with someone and you’re pretty into them. But you’re also not sure if you should be opening yourself up to getting hurt or stay in your cozy single bubble. It’s totally fine to feel this way, especially if you’ve been broken hearted in the past. As long as you figure out your feelings within the first month or so, it’s OK.
  2. Whether you want to quit your job. Some days you want to die and other days you laugh with your coworkers and your boss actually kind of makes sense. Quitting your job is a huge decision so it’s OK to sit back for a while and really ponder it.
  3. What the future holds. How boring would you be if you could predict the future? It’s not the coolest superpower to have because then nothing would be new and exciting anymore. Chill out about the future and enjoy what’s going on right now (even though that’s easier said than done).
  4. Watching Oscar movies. If award-worthy movies bore you to tears, you can admit it, but you’re probably feeling pretty torn. You want to keep up with pop culture conversations, but you’re not all that interested in seeing Leo get eaten/attacked/whatever by a bear. What’s a girl to do?
  5. Whether you and your S.O. should shack up. Best or worst idea ever? You have no idea, and that’s OK. You don’t want to yell at them to pick up their dirty laundry or argue over who’s cooking dinner. As long as everything can be equal, you’d consider moving in together.
  6. If you should give it all up and travel. Your BFF just took an amazing two-month vacation to Europe and your wanderlust is seriously calling your name. But you don’t know if your boss would be into you taking time off and you don’t want to stop working. Going on a major trip is a big step so it makes sense that you would be confused.
  7. If marriage is not that lame after all. There seems to be a rule these days that you’re a loser if you want to get married, but that seems crazy. It’s OK if you think you might want to get married (either someday or sooner than that) and it’s fine if you need more time to mull that one over.
  8. If you want to move to a new city. Making a big move is a massive decision and it can be super hard to decide. You love your life right now and would hate to leave your friends behind, but at the same time you’re seriously bored and need a new adventure.
  9. Whether you even enjoy yoga. You definitely know at least one person who is gaga about yoga but it might not be your cup of tea. You think you should like it because everyone seems to but you’re always wondering whether you’re getting a good workout or are just super bored.
  10. If you’re waiting for someone that doesn’t exist. It’s one thing to have high standards, it’s another to never give someone a chance. It’s OK to be unsure if you’re waiting too long and if that magical human being will never materialize. It’s a tough balance to strike, but you’ll get there.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.