10 Things You Do That Are Practically Committing Relationship Suicide

Some mistakes just can’t be forgiven—or at least not forgotten. Your boyfriend might love you but every man has a breaking point. If you’re guilty of any of these behaviors, sorry to break it to you but you’re practically committing relationship suicide.

  1. You give him an ultimatum. Your way or the highway doesn’t work when it comes to relationships. Your boyfriend is sure to take the high road right out of your relationship. It doesn’t matter if you want him to choose you over his friends, family, or anything else in his life—your love and relationship should never be contingent on strings.
  2. You snoop through his personal stuff. Whether you’re looking through his phone, web history, or Facebook, bottom line—you don’t trust him. When he finds out (and he will find out), it’s him that will no longer trust you. You showed him the true foundation of your relationship—deception. Just remember, it takes a long time to build trust, but once you break that trust, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
  3. You act less like his girlfriend and more like his mom. In relationships, sometimes this line can get a little blurred. Your boyfriend shouldn’t have to ask for permission to do things when you don’t even have plans together. Your relationship shouldn’t turn into a state of constantly nagging him to do things or telling him what he did wrong each and every day. Being his girlfriend doesn’t mean you get to be the boss of him. He’s an adult and he can make his own decisions. Remember that, or he might just quit you.
  4. You don’t give him any time to himself. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean he needs to give up all his freedom and independence. Give him space. He deserves alone time and time to spend with his friends without you. Not everything needs to be a group activity, not everything he does includes a plus one. You should obviously be spending time together in order to maintain your relationship—just make sure you’re not trying to control all of his time because you need your own, as well.
  5. You ask to take a break. The line between a break and a breakup is very thin and always confusing. Did you lay out the details of your break? If things are left unclear then he might feel free to do whatever the hell he wants. Maybe you really did just need some space before falling back into his arms, but if you’re taking space then so is he—and he might just find out that life is better without you.
  6. You play mind games. To find out if a guy really loves you, you have to test his love, right? Wrong. No guy deserves to be screwed with just so you can feel better about yourself. If he really loves you then you should be able to see it. If you still need to play games, it sounds like you’re more interested in drama than a real relationship.
  7. You obsess over constant communication. Who came up with the ridiculous concept that couples need to be talking or texting all day long? You both deserve a much-needed break to not worry about your relationship for more than five minutes a day. So if he’s not texting you back for a few hours, don’t obsess. He’s probably busy AF, just like you.
  8. You can’t let go of his past. Maybe his number is a lot higher than yours. Maybe you were in love with him for years and he never noticed, or maybe you wonder what would happen if the ex who broke his heart came crawling back. Whatever happened in the past should be left in the past. You’re together now, so focus on your future and let go of his past so he can too.
  9. You keep your ex a little too close for comfort. Once upon a time, you were lovers, but now you swear you’re just friends. The first thing you have to do is take a good hard look at the relationship with your ex and make sure it’s completely platonic. If you establish there are no feelings left whatsoever (at least on your part), then consider trading places with your current boyfriend. If he had the same relationship with his ex as you do with yours, would you be okay with that? If not, then either you say goodbye to your ex or to your boyfriend. The choice is up to you.
  10. You cheat in any way, shape, or form. It doesn’t matter if the affair was physical or emotional. Either way, you seriously disrespected your boyfriend. Cheating is the deepest of betrayals, and as sorry as you may be, there’s no going back. Cheating is like a cancer that eats away at your entire relationship, but no matter how soon you catch it and start treatment, the relationship is doomed. Now that’s total relationship suicide.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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