10 Things To Remember When You’re Sick Of Being Single

They say the grass is always greener on the other side. We always want the things we don’t have and we take the things that we do have for granted. When you’re in a relationship, you miss certain freedoms of being single. When you’re single, you miss the stability of being in a relationship. Instead of wishful thinking, you should just live in the present and let things come as they may. Being single can suck sometimes, but it also has its perks. Here are ten things you have to remind yourself when you’re sick of being on your own.

  1. Don’t try to turn a mediocre first date into a full-fledged relationship. Let’s face it: dating sucks. You have to go through a lot of frogs before you find your Prince Charming. Don’t get so desperate to be in a relationship to the point where you just pick any guy and call it a day. Never settle for less than you want or deserve.
  2. Take it easy on the hookups. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean your “number” needs to triple in the span of a month. Yes, one of the perks of being single is being allowed to hook up with anyone you want, but you don’t need to go home with every guy you go on a date with. Have some class, ladies.
  3. Don’t reach out to people from the past just because you’re lonely. One of the biggest downfalls of being single is fighting the battle of loneliness. Sometimes, we just want someone to cuddle and watch Netflix with. And sometimes, we revert to our exes or people we’ve formerly dated just because it’s familiar or comfortable. You should be moving forward, not backwards. It’s tough, but try to deal with the loneliness on your own.
  4. Stop stalking your exes. You don’t need to know what your exes are doing. If he has a new girlfriend, don’t get down in the dumps about yourself. He found someone new, and you will too. Stalking your ex and his girlfriend’s Facebook doesn’t help anything and it won’t make you feel any better.
  5. You still have your friends. Don’t forget about the fact that you still have friends. You don’t need a man to constantly keep you company. Go out for a girl’s night and spend time with your friends while you can. Before you know it, you’ll be in a relationship and they’ll be wondering where the hell you went.
  6. You’re not doomed to be single for the rest of your life. You are single right now. You don’t know what’ll happen in the future. You can’t predict who you’ll meet in a month, a week, or even a day. People come in and out of our lives and you never know when it will happen, so don’t write yourself off as being forever single.
  7. Now is the time to work on yourself. Being single is when you learn the most about yourself. After a number of failed dates, relationships, and heartbreaks, this is time to evaluate and re-evaluate what you truly want in life and the kind of person you want to be with. Learn to love yourself and learn how to be on your own. You need to work on yourself and be ready before being with someone else.
  8. Embrace the freedom of not being tied down. Keep yourself busy with hobbies, your career, or whatever it is that fuels you. Work hard in the other areas of your life and focus on yourself while you can. This alone time is the time when you can do whatever you put your mind to without taking your significant other into consideration. Embrace this freedom while you have the time.
  9. It’s not the end of the world. Your life isn’t over. No need to panic. There are worse things in life than being single. Don’t be overly dramatic just because you haven’t found the man of your dreams. All good things will come in time.
  10. There’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t let the label of being single define your entire life. You are not any less important or any less special just because you don’t have a boyfriend. Don’t get in the mindset of thinking that there is something wrong with you. You shouldn’t have to change who you are for someone else anyways. The right one will love you for exactly who you are.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns