10 Things Rom-Coms Actually Get Right About Relationships

Romantic comedies are criticized for their unrealistic portrayal of relationships, but they aren’t as inaccurate as everyone claims. Sure, there are some dramatic airport scenes that would never happen in real life, but there are also some touching scenes that we can all relate to. After all, if chick flicks got love all wrong, would you bother to watch them at all? There’s some truth in even the corniest films.

  1. You give up certain things for love. No, you should never give up your career for a man. Of course, when you enter a serious relationship, you’re going to have to give up some of your independence, privacy, and free time. It’s all in the name of love.
  2. Overbearing in-laws butt into your life. Even though you’re probably sick of seeing fathers who are overprotective of their daughters and mothers who don’t want to let their little boys grow up, those types of parents exist in real life. When you marry someone, you also marry their family, which means you have to deal with double the trouble.
  3. You fall in love when you don’t want to. Who really wants to deal with all the conflict and heartbreak that relationships entail? Most of us don’t want to become overly attached to another person, because then they’ll have the power to hurt us. However, when we find the right man, we can’t help it. We let love override our common sense.
  4. There’s a “breakup” moment. There’s always a moment in romantic comedies where the main couple breaks up, or is on the verge of breaking up. Unfortunately, that moment will happen in even the healthiest relationship, because fights are unavoidable.
  5. He’s right under your nose. We spend so much time looking for our perfect match that we ignore the obvious. Sometimes, your best buddy or your coworker is the man of your dreams. Everyone else realizes it, but it takes you two a while to get the memo.
  6. There are threats to your relationship. Maybe your ex popped up out of the blue. Maybe your parents don’t approve of your new boyfriend. Maybe you’re jealous of your man’s sexy new boss. There’s always something threatening your relationship, which is bound to cause some sort of conflict.
  7. The “average” girl gets a makeover. Okay, you won’t necessarily get a makeover after you find the love of your life. However, you will feel more beautiful than you ever have before, because you landed such an amazing guy. If you’ve never considered yourself pretty before, you will now!
  8. You eat to deal with heartbreak. When a woman in a romantic comedy is sad, she’ll either lounge around with a tub of ice cream or throw herself into her work. It’s a pretty accurate representation of heartbreak.
  9. You listen to sappy soundtracks. Even if you usually only listen to death metal, you’ll have the urge to put on Taylor Swift when you’re madly in love. Something about your boyfriend will bring out your soft side, which is why you’ll listen to slow songs while making out in the car.
  10. Love doesn’t always last. There are some special romantic comedies, like 500 Days of Summer, which remind us that love doesn’t always last. Sometimes, you’re only meant to be together for a few months, then it’s time to move on to the next guy.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.