10 Things You Shouldn’t Pretend To Like Just To Get A Boyfriend (Or Keep One)

10 Things You Shouldn’t Pretend To Like Just To Get A Boyfriend (Or Keep One)

Sure, it’s tempting to pretend to be someone you’re not in order to impress a guy, but do you really think that will work out for you? If you end up in a relationship, he’s going to find out you were lying eventually. Even if you can keep the charade going for years, will it really make you happy? It probably won’t, which is why you should never pretend to like certain things to get a boyfriend — or to keep one:

  1. Sports. We all want to be considered a “cool girl,” but you don’t have to lie in order to earn the title. If you hate hockey, then don’t volunteer to watch the game with him. He’ll understand that you have different interests.
  2. Cooking for him. If you hate whipping up dinner, don’t pretend that it would be your pleasure to make him a meal. If you two stay together, he’ll expect you to keep up the good work, and you’ll end up miserable. So save yourself the trouble and let him know you’re not the maternal type.
  3. His moves in the bedroom. You deserve to enjoy sex as much as he does. If the moves he’s making aren’t getting you going, don’t fake your moans and orgasms. Let him know that you’d prefer another approach, and let him know what that is. He should be thankful for the advice.
  4. His favorite music. Men want to date a woman they like — not a woman who’s the spitting image of him. That’s why you shouldn’t pretend to like the same bands or television shows as him. He doesn’t expect you to be the spitting image of him.
  5. Alcohol. Don’t let peer pressure get to you. If you aren’t interested in sipping on a beer while watching Netflix, ask him for a glass of water instead. He shouldn’t mind the fact that you’re sober, as long as you aren’t complaining about his drinking.
  6. His friends and family. If you want your relationship to last, it’ll help to get along with his parents and besties. Of course, if they say something inappropriate to you, let your man know. Don’t allow his closest friends to get away with treating you poorly. You don’t deserve it.
  7. His pets. If he owns a cat and you hate cats, don’t pretend to love them. Even if you do, your actions are going to give yourself away. If he knows from the start that you’re not a fan of his pet, then he can try to keep it as far away from you as possible.
  8. Makeup and fashion. Not all men want to be with a girly girl, so it’s pointless to slip into a fancy dress and pile on the makeup if it makes you uncomfortable. If you end up dating him, he’s going to see you in the morning wearing pajamas without any makeup on, so you can’t keep up the charade forever.
  9. Exercising. If you get out of breath walking up a flight of stairs, don’t pretend that you hit the gym every weekend. He’ll end up taking you hiking and will find out that you’re a liar pretty quickly. Unless you want to embarrass yourself on a nature trail, be honest from the start.
  10. Him. You shouldn’t date a guy you can’t stand, just so you can say you have a boyfriend. Your relationship status doesn’t define you. If you hate his personality, stay as far away from him as you can. There’s no sense in lying about liking him.
Holly is a science fiction and horror writer, who has recently been published by Flash Fiction Press, Infective Ink, and Popcorn Press. You can find more of her nonfiction articles on All Women Stalk, The Talko, and News Cult.