10 Things You Shouldn’t Have To Do To Prove You Love Him

10 Things You Shouldn’t Have To Do To Prove You Love Him ©iStock/Sneksy

Saying that you love someone isn’t enough — your actions have to match your words if you really want your man to believe you. Of course, there are a few things that have nothing to do with how much you care about a man. That’s why you shouldn’t have to do these ridiculous things to prove your love to him:

  1. Sleep with him. Plenty of Tinder dates include sex without love, and plenty of virgins have been in love without having sex. The two don’t go hand-in-hand. If your boyfriend claims that you’d sleep with him if you really loved him, then tell him that he wouldn’t be pressuring you if he really loved you.
  2. Make him dinner. You’re his girlfriend, not his personal chef. If he wants to eat a delicious dinner, he’s capable of tossing a pot onto his own stove. Your place isn’t in the kitchen, just like his place isn’t in the garage or on the toilet seat.
  3. Send him nudes. There are plenty of ways to confess your love to someone, but sending nudes certainly isn’t one of them. If he’s begging you for naked pictures, he’s only looking for masturbation material.
  4. Let him get his way. He doesn’t get free reign to do whatever he pleases, just because you love him. Sometimes, you’re going to have to compromise—and sometimes, you’re going to be the one winning the entire argument and he’ll just have to deal with it.
  5. Post couple pictures on social media. If you don’t want to change your Facebook status to “in a relationship” or post dozens of kissing selfies on your Instagram, he shouldn’t blame you. Some of us are more private than others. You don’t have to get too social on your social media.
  6. Buy him expensive gifts. If you’re broke, you don’t have to waste your paycheck on an Apple watch for him. There are other ways to show him that you care. If he expects you to spend big bucks on him, then he wants a sugar mama, not a girlfriend.
  7. Tell him constantly. It doesn’t cost you anything to say those three little words. Of course, if you’re not the touchy feely type, you don’t have to tell him you love him every morning, noon, and night. As long as you show him how much you love him, you don’t need your words to convince him that it’s the truth.
  8. Throw out reminders of your exes. It’s not a crime to have old photographs or presents from your exes. Don’t let your boyfriend convince you to throw those memories out. As long as your exes stay in your past, having momentos of them doesn’t mean you love your partner any less.
  9. Wear the jewelry he bought you. Some men will get offended if you don’t wear the necklace they bought you every single day. Of course, a material item doesn’t prove your love. It’s just an item, albeit a sentimental one.
  10. Marry him. Not all married couples are in love, and not everyone who’s in love is married. If you don’t want to deal with a proposal, a bachelorette party, and an actual wedding, you don’t have to. You can be in love without wearing a ring on your finger.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.