How much time do you spend every day worrying about things that don’t matter, that you can’t change, and that only bring you down? Stop. You’re way too awesome to waste your precious time on that BS anymore. You’re a grown woman and it’s time to start acting like it. Ditch the stress and get on with your life by ceasing to give a f*ck about these 10 things:
- What other people think. You’ll never make everyone happy, no matter what you do, so why bother trying? Rather than worrying about the people who disapprove of your choices, try surrounding yourself with people who love and support you no matter what. The haters aren’t worth your mental space. Do what feels right for YOU. As long as it’s not hurting anyone else, you have nothing to apologize for or explain.
- The world’s expectations of you. There are a million ways to live your life, and only you know which path is right for you. Forget having the perfect boyfriend, the perfect job, the perfect body, etc. Focus on getting to know yourself and listening to your gut; they’re the only things you really need to pay attention to. All the rest is just noise.
- Your past mistakes. No one’s perfect. We’ve all done things we regret and things we wish we’d done differently, but what’s done is done and there’s no point beating yourself up over it. Make amends, learn what you can from it, decide to never make that mistake again, and then move on. Fixating on what you’ve done wrong in the past just makes your present suck. Don’t let your history affect your future.
- The fear of failure. The key to success is not being afraid to make mistakes. Life is a series of trial-and-error experiments, and the only real failure is not trying in the first place. So what if you screw up? That’s how you learn and grow. Playing it safe never made anything amazing happen. You have to put yourself out there if you ever want to change your life. It’s really that simple.
- How much money you make. You’ll never be truly happy doing work you hate, even if it brings you millions. Sure, you need to be able to put a roof over your head and food on your table, but stacking up cash for things you don’t need is unnecessary and won’t bring you fulfillment. Focus instead of finding the work you love and building a life that makes you satisfied. You’re the only one who can determine if you’re a “success” or not.
- Keeping up with trends. Sexiness and style are all about attitude. If you wear clothes that flatter your body and make you feel awesome, it inspires confidence and comfort in your own skin, and that radiates outward. So you do you, and do it to the max. Just because everyone else is wearing something doesn’t mean you should — in fact, if you really want to be unique and stand out from the crowd, following the trends isn’t really the way to do it.
- FOMO. Sure, you could be up-to-date on every single social media feed, but at what cost? There are way too many updates to ever keep up with them all, and most of them are fairly pointless, if you really think about it. Take some time to unplug and relax now and then or you’ll suffer information overload. I promise your life won’t fall apart if you miss your best friend’s cousin’s latest food selfie.
- Being cool. What the hell does “cool” even mean? The real world isn’t middle school, and thank god for that. Your day-to-day success and happiness shouldn’t depend on whether or not you measure up to some arbitrary standard someone else decided was valuable. Be unapologetically you — that’s the coolest thing of all that you could possibly be.
- Your physical “flaws.” You can only do so much to change your weight, your skin, your body type — and even then, you should only worry about changing these things if it will make YOU happy. Make peace with what you were born with. Learn to love what you haveand let go of the rest. If we all looked the same, the world would be an incredibly boring place. You’re perfect just as you are, and it’s time you start believing it.
- How you compare to other people. There will always be someone with a better job, better hair, better skills than you — but there will also always be people who think you have a better job, better hair, better skills than they do. It’s all relative, and comparing what you have to what someone else has will only prevent you from ever being content with what you have. Don’t try to make your life match other people’s; just worry about making it the best life you can live.
