10 Things That Happen When You Ignore A Guy & Why It Works

Ignoring a guy you like for a bit isn’t about hurting him or giving him a hard time. By using this technique correctly, you can make him step up to the plate, realize what he has in you, and even increase his interest. Here’s why ignoring him works to cement his interest in you and could take your relationship to the next level.

  1. You leave him to wonder about you. If you don’t hang onto his every word, you leave him with a bit of mystery. He’s going to think about what you’re thinking and feeling and if he’s on your radar. See, he’ll be interested in what you’re all about, and that’s what you want.
  2. You show him you’re not desperate. You’re not trying to wave him down when he arrives at a party or staring at him during conversation to try to make him connect with you, and why should you? That stuff’s exhausting! By stepping back and chilling a bit, you show him you’re not needy at all. You can take him or leave him, which is attractive and will draw him to you.
  3. You give him a chance to miss you. If you want him to chat to you more via text but you’re always messaging him first, you’re not giving him a chance to think about and miss you. Stepping back and ignoring him a little will make him wonder where you are and why you’re not around. Soon you’ll be hearing from him.
  4. You show him you’re worthy. What does a queen who’s worthy of attention not do? She doesn’t bow down to the guy’s every need or make herself super-available to him like she needs something from him or she’s chasing him. Hell no. She steps back and lets him realize she’s a queen who doesn’t bow down to anyone. He’s got to work for her attention.
  5. You let him initiate contact. You can’t know if he’s really interested in you or just texting you because he’s horny unless you back off a bit and see what he does when you’re ignoring him a little. Does he step up and get in touch or does he move further away? This will be useful to show you what he wants so you don’t waste your time.
  6. You show him you have a life. Few things are sexier than someone who has a vibrant life and loves every inch of it. If you’re always hovering around him, it sends the message that you have nothing else going on and you’re waiting around for him. That’s not true – and it shouldn’t be!
  7. You let him want what he can’t have. In a room full of women, a guy will probably want to go to the woman who’s totally ignoring him. It’s because she’s more intriguing and he’ll want what isn’t being thrown at him.
  8. You’ll burn his ego. This isn’t about hurting the guy or anything, but if you ignore him he might feel a bit affronted because you’re attacking his ego. He might wonder why you’re not stroking his ego like all those other women. This is what will make him want to chase you. He’ll also realize he doesn’t want to lose you.
  9. You’ll make him panic a bit. When he realizes that he could be losing you, he’ll want to get in touch and make an effort to keep you in his life. It’s human nature to sometimes only realize how much we like someone when we fear we’re about to lose them and feel more interested in the person when we’re on the cusp of losing them. Let him reach that mountain edge so he can suss out his feelings and come to you.
  10. You show him he can’t take you for granted. If you’re always around and he’s so used to seeing you in his life, he might start to get a little too comfortable in the situation. This could mean that he ends up taking you for granted. By ignoring him a bit and letting him see that you don’t need him and that you value yourself, he’ll get the message that he’s got to appreciate you if he wants to keep you around. You ain’t no doormat or forgettable woman. You’re a keeper.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.