10 Things Women Deserve Even If The World Tells Us Otherwise

10 Things Women Deserve Even If The World Tells Us Otherwise ©iStock/jeffbergen

In a world that dictates everything about what it means to be a woman and is quick to point out everything that”s wrong with us on a daily basis, it can be hard to remember how valuable you actually are as a person. Even though it’s easier to focus on your flaws, you need to train your brain to focus on the positive stuff. You’re not as horrible as society would like to trick you into believing, so stop thinking so low of yourself. You’re a beautiful, strong woman who deserves all of these things, and more:

  1. Orgasms. If you’re single, don’t hesitate to break out your vibrator. If you’re in a relationship, never fake an orgasm again, because you deserve the real deal. If your man gets to finish, you should, too.
  2. Respect. You deserve respect from your boyfriend, your parents, and your boss. If anyone treats you like you’re worthless, put them in their place. You don’t deserve to be treated in such a disrespectful way by anyone. Ever.
  3. Junk food. It doesn’t matter how strict your diet is. If you want to eat a cookie, don’t stop yourself. You deserve a treat every once in a while, just like the ladies half your size do. So stop obsessing over your weight during every hour of the day.
  4. A break. You can’t kill yourself with work. It takes a lot of effort to achieve your goals, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t allowed to take any time off. Vacations can do you good. They’ll help you rest your mind and your body so you’ll be sharp enough to land that promotion.
  5. A clean slate. You aren’t the same person you were ten years ago, or even one year ago. Everyone deserves a clean slate. Forgive yourself for the things you’ve done in the past, so you can move on and live your best life. You’ve earned it.
  6. Friends. You aren’t unlovable; in fact, you’re amazing and anyone that’s in your life is lucky to be there. You deserve to have friends that are loyal and fun. That’s why you need to put yourself out there, so you can meet new people. You’ll find some that you’ll get along with well, as long as you try.
  7. A positive self-image. It’s not cocky to look in the mirror and enjoy your own reflection. It’s important to have a healthy self-image of yourself. If you think you’re a monster, then you’re not going to believe others when they tell you how pretty you are. You deserve to feel beautiful.
  8. Health. You deserve to be healthy, so stop neglecting yourself. Schedule the appointment for the doctor you’ve been putting off and don’t forget to take your medication. Treat your body the way you’d treat the body of someone you love.
  9. Freedom. You shouldn’t rely on your parents or your boyfriend to make your decisions for you. You deserve to make your own choices. It’s your life, after all. Do what you think will be the best for you without letting others influence your opinion.
  10. Love. No matter what you tell yourself, you’re deserving of love. You might receive it from a man, from family members, or from a pet. Of course, the type of love you deserve the most is self-love. Learn to appreciate yourself for whom you are, because you’re pretty damn amazing.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.