10 Things You’re Only Willing To Put Up With When He’s The One

Everyone has their relationship dealbreakers, but not all of a guy’s bad qualities should make you run away as fast as your legs can carry you. Some annoying qualities or behaviors are tough to deal with, of course, but if he’s the right guy for you, you’ll willingly put up with these things:

  1. His crazy family. You don’t get to pick your family and you sure as hell don’t get to pick your boyfriend’s family. You’ll never love the way his mother thinks that she takes better care of him than you do. You’ll always hate anytime politics are mentioned. His parents will try to tell you how to live your lives and you’ll just want to throw them out of the house. If he’s “The One,” though, you’ll find a way to fit in with them.
  2. Bad sleeping habits. Whether he snores, talks in his sleep, needs to fall asleep with the TV on or is a total bed hog, if he’s the right guy, you have to be willing to put up with these little (huge) annoyances for the rest of your life. At first you think you’ll never have a good night’s rest again, but then you realize that sleeping next to him makes you feel right at home. You’ll be in bed with a human snore factory until your dying days, but you know why it’s worth it? Because that’s nothing when it comes to true love.
  3. His bathroom routine. You’ll be grossed out when he flosses or blows his nose and you don’t even want to think about going into the bathroom right after him. Despite your disgust for his entire bathroom routine, you put up with him anyway because you know how much patience he has for your 25 minute showers and 90-minute getting ready routine in front of the mirror.
  4. Opposite financial outlooks. Whether he likes to spend and you like to save or you’re the one splurging, finances are always a serious ordeal in any real relationship. Even if you’re both spenders, you’re not going to agree on what exactly you should spend your money on. You both have different interests, hobbies and sometimes priorities. At the end of the day, though, you’ll learn how to budget together to make allowances for the things you both like while making sure the bills are paid.
  5. His definition of the word “clean.” Men and women have their differences and one of the differences in your relationship might be related to the definition of “clean.” Whether it’s personal hygiene or housework, it’s rare that you’ll be on the same page. You’ll hate the way he sniffs his clothes to see if they can still be deemed acceptable in public and the way he tracks dirt through the whole damn house. You might give up after explaining to him that doing the laundry also includes folding it rather than throwing it all into the laundry bag unfolded straight from the dryer, but you’re not going to leave him over it.
  6. Every little (and big) fight. Just because you were practically made for each other doesn’t mean you’ll never disagree. When you were with your ex, every fight might have put you one step closer to the door, but when you’re with the right guy, it doesn’t matter how heated it gets you — you know you can get through anything. Your relationship will have its ups and downs. Sometimes you’ll be right and others you’ll be ridiculously wrong, but no matter what no matter how big the issue, you’re in this together and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
  7. The way he dresses. You wouldn’t exactly call it a wardrobe. In fact, when it comes to dressing himself, you’re pretty damn surprised he got this far in his life without you. You’ll take him shopping and try to get him into new clothes with a proper fit, but he’ll still hold onto his old ratty t-shirts despite all the holes. You’ll roll your eyes when you see his old duds, but he’ll dress up for you when he takes you out. It’s a compromise, and that’s what keeps love alive.
  8. His friend that never grew up. Every guy has that one friend their girlfriend hates, but if he’s “The One,” you put up with his immature bro anyway. You know your boyfriend loves him and sometimes (most of the time) you don’t know why, but you accept him anyway. If your boyfriend likes him, then he must have some redeeming qualities, right? Even if he’ll never really be your cup of tea, deep deep deep down you love him because hanging with him makes your partner happy, and that’s all you’ve ever wanted.
  9. How he turns into a child when he’s sick. All of a sudden you’re checking his temperature, bringing him soup and checking up on all of his symptoms. He’s the patient and you’re his nurse, but unfortunately you’re not playing out a sexual fantasy. Even if it’s just the flu, the boy acts like he’s dying. In the end, you don’t really care if he’s exaggerating because all you want to do is take care of him. Now that’s love.
  10. The real him. Every man is going to have his flaws, but when you meet “The One,” you learn to love him because of (not despite) those flaws. He might eat his food too fast. Maybe he’s the messiest man alive. He might even leave the kitchen cupboards open every damn time he goes in them. He has “annoying” little quirks, but those are the things that really make him the man you love. If you had the chance to change all those little things that annoy you from time to time, you wouldn’t because if you did, he wouldn’t be the guy you’re crazy about.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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