10 Thoughts You Have When Considering A Long Distance Relationship

10 Thoughts You Have When Considering A Long Distance Relationship ©iStock/Kieferpix

When you’re searching for your soulmate, you have to consider that they may not live in the same zip code or even the same state or country as you. Thanks to modern technology, we can easily keep in touch with people who are far away, and that has opened up a world of new possibilities. When you’re talking to someone long distance and considering them as a potential partner, there are several thoughts you’re likely to have.

  1. He’s so far away and that sucks. When you’re just getting to know someone, you want to experience everything about him, and the physical aspect of it is the hardest to go without. Not only is physical contact comforting, it tells you definitively if the two of you have the chemistry needed to work as a couple.
  2. I hope I’m not wasting my time. When you’re vetting potential boyfriends, the last thing you want to do is waste a lot of time on someone who isn’t right for you. In the case of someone who’s hundreds of miles away, you can’t be sure if it’s a good match until you make plans to meet up. Until then, you’re taking the chance that every hour you spend talking to them is an hour of your life that you won’t get back.
  3. Am I crazy for thinking he could be The One? You know there are eligible bachelors in your own city, but you somehow keep thinking about the one who’s far away, the one you don’t get to touch, hug or even go to dinner with. It makes you wonder if you’re just wanting what you can’t have or if the feelings you’re having are legit.
  4. Does he think about me as often as I think about him? You know that he has his own life in his city, but you can’t help but wonder how often he thinks about you. You’re hoping that you cross his mind every day, and that he’s thinking about you in a real way, not just thinking about you when he’s in bed and fantasizing about what he’d do if you were there.
  5. Should I be dating people in my own city? When you’re not officially in a relationship, both of you have every right to date other people, but the real question is whether you want to date locally. You feel like you shouldn’t limit your options, but you also don’t want to be that jerk who’s on a date with someone and spending the whole time thinking about someone else.
  6. I want to spend time with him in person, but I’m nervous. Even if it won’t be your first time meeting in person, it will most likely be the first time spending time with him in a romantic way, which can be a bit unnerving, especially after it’s been built up in your head.
  7. What if it’s awkward or we have no chemistry in person? We can’t help but play the “what if” game when we’re thinking about something so life-changing. As much as you hope the chemistry is there, you know there’s always a chance it won’t be, so you try to be as prepared as possible to move on if necessary.
  8. If it was working out, would I move or would he? When you’re single, it sounds a little crazy to consider relocating for a guy, but you know it would be worth it if he turned out to be The One. Plus, if it doesn’t work out, you always have the option to move again.
  9. Would I be able to handle a long distance relationship? Relationships in general aren’t easy, but long distance relationships are more difficult to maintain than most. You have to seriously consider if you would be able to handle being in a relationship with someone you don’t get to see or touch very often.
  10. This could get a little complicated. When you’re looking ahead at any potential relationship, it can be overwhelming but distance just exacerbates that anxiety. When it comes down to it, all you can do is take it one step at a time and try not to get too overwhelmed. If you can keep your doubts at bay, you just may find the forever you’re looking for.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.