10 Times When Being Single Really Is A Big Deal

10 Times When Being Single Really Is A Big Deal ©iStock/druvo

Not so long ago, it was considered super uncool to be single. The older you got, the more “old maid” and “cat lady” jokes there were. These days, it’s just not a big deal, and there seem to be more amazing, accomplished, successful single women out there than ever. However, there are still a few situations when you start seriously lamenting your single status. Here are 10 times when being single really is a big deal”

  1. When you’re at your BFF’s engagement party. When you leave your 20s and especially when you’re well into your 30s, your friends are going to start with the ring photos. It’s basically inevitable. You’ll be happy for them, of course, but the one that will hurt the most is when your closest friend in the world is getting hitched. You won’t be able to ignore the sting of attending her engagement party without a fiancé of your own, let alone a date.
  2. When your friends are dating up a storm. Sometimes, through no fault of your own, you just can’t get any dates. It happens to everyone and that’s when a dating hiatus can happen without your permission. It’s especially bad being single when your single girlfriends are chatting about all the awesome dates they’ve been on recently… and you’re sending out ignored messages into the online abyss.
  3. When you’re hopelessly in love with love. You can’t help it. You know it’s cool to be cynical but that’s just not who you are. You live for flowers and romantic speeches and all that jazz. Sadly, you’re still single so you have no one to gush over and just end up watching a lot of Lifetime movies.
  4. When you want a binge-watching partner. Sure, watching your favorite shows alone is one of the greatest pleasures in life. You can totally zone out and forget all your problems, worries and the work that’s waiting for you in the morning. But sometimes, you’re watching a super juicy drama or so-bad-it’s-good horror movie and just want someone to laugh with or discuss storylines with.
  5. When you actually want to cook. If you live on your own, you probably buy just enough food every week so you can survive and try to cook as little as you can. It’s just so much hard work, time and effort, especialy if it’s just you. When you do get bit by the culinary bug you get tired of freezing the leftovers (or maybe you totally forget and then find your turkey chili a week later in the fridge – oops). It really sucks to be single when you would love to cook dinner for the person that you love.
  6. When your friend’s heart is broken. It’s totally awesome that you’re helping your friend through her break-up and of course you don’t want to make it all about you. But sometimes bad break-ups are a not-so-friendly reminder that you’ve had your fair share of them yourself and still haven’t found love again.
  7. When you want to travel. Of course you could go somewhere warm and exotic with your friends but there’s just something so special about the first big trip that you take with your significant other.
  8. When it’s cold and snowy outside for days. Sigh. So many missed romantic opportunities when it’s just you on your couch once again. Snow days would be so much more fun if you had a boyfriend to sit beside you (if only so he can bring you coffee and/or red wine).
  9. When you can’t take another weird date. You’re beyond fed up with dating at this point and cringe at the thought of subwaying over to another restaurant on another Friday night meeting another stranger who could be the weirdest person ever. No thanks.
  10. When you’re the last one. Your siblings are all coupled up by now and so are all your friends. Even your acquaintances and coworkers seem to have something going on in the love department these days. Being single isn’t a big deal until you’re the only one in your social circle and family who still is. Take a few deep breaths and distract yourself whenever you start to feel bad – it’s only a matter of time until you can proudly say you’re leaving your single status behind, too.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.
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