10 Topics You Shouldn’t Actually Avoid On A First Date

You shouldn’t limit yourself to boringly bland conversations just because you want to make your date feel comfortable. You’ll stand out more if you delve into territory that most women won’t enter. After all, there’s no reason to avoid topics that can actually bring you two closer together. That’s why you should stop considering certain topics “taboo” and just say whatever you feel like saying.

  1. Your exes. You don’t want to include your ex’s name in every sentence, because your date will assume you’re stuck in the past. However, your exes helped shape you into who you are today. If you tell your date that your ex smoked weed and it was the main deal breaker for you, then it’ll teach him something about you and your morals.
  2. Your health. If you have an STD, he needs to know. If you’re allergic to peanuts or to dogs, he needs to know. You don’t want to go back to his place, run into his chihuahua, and then start sneezing, do you?
  3. Your favorite sex positions. Sex shouldn’t be seen as a taboo subject. After all, it’s what both of you will be thinking about all throughout dinner. If you hit it off, you’re going to end up having sex later in the night, so it’s better for him to know what you like before your clothes come off. That way, you won’t have any awkward moments in the bedroom.
  4. Your obsessions. Don’t be ashamed of your seven cats or the fact that you’ve been to dozens of One Direction concerts. A first date is the perfect time to tell him something silly about yourself. Everyone has their quirks, and if he can’t handle yours, then he can head for the door.
  5. Your view on children. Conversations about children don’t have to be serious. You can casually ask him if he wants to have a family in the future. If he tells you his dream is to move to Hawaii to be childless, but you love kids and hate the heat, then you won’t waste your time on a second date, because you clearly want different things.
  6. Your struggles. If you’ve been struggling with depression over your mother’s death, you don’t have to keep it a secret. It’s better for him to know upfront. That way, he’ll understand why you might seem a little off.
  7. Your opinion of the weather. Yes, it’s boring. Yes, it’s cliché. However, talking about something simple like how nice out it is can help you two relax around each other. The more comfortable you are, the better the date will go.
  8. Your family. Everyone has embarrassing stories to tell about their families. If you want to tell a tale about your parents, then don’t hesitate to do so. If you two stay together, he’s going to find out about their issues eventually.
  9. Your finances. You shouldn’t ask him how much money he makes. However, you should ask him if he goes out to eat and travels often, or if he likes to save his money. If you two don’t feel the same way about spending, you probably won’t work well together.
  10. Your complaints. Some people will tell you to avoid complaining about your job, your apartment, or anything else, because you’ll come across as negative. But how many times have you made a friend, just because you hated the same things? Don’t hold back your complaints. They might help you two bond.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.