Some Crushes Can Destroy Your Life, So Don’t Go There

Some crushes are totally harmless and actually a lot of fun, but others can (and probably will) completely destroy your life. Like it or not, there are some people that are off-limits. No matter how great you’re sure you’d be together, you can’t get involved with him because you’ll create an extremely messy situation. Then your life is as good as ruined, and someone else’s might be, as well.

  1. Your one-night stand. You thought you could handle casual sex, so you slept with a stranger at a party. However, now you can’t stop thinking about the guy. He clearly only wanted sex, and is probably sleeping with the next woman already, so you’re only going to get your heartbroken if you get hung up on him.
  2. Your boss. If you get accused of sexual harassment, you could lose your job. Even if you end up with your boss, because there’s no policy against work relationships, your coworkers will always be judging you. They’ll think you’re receiving special treatment by sleeping around. You don’t want a reputation like that.
  3. Your boyfriend’s bestie. When you’re in a relationship, any type of crush is a dangerous crush. Of course, the worst is when you develop feeling for your man’s best friend. Even if you break up with him, you’ll never end up with his bestie, because of the damn bro code.
  4. Your bestie. This is a tricky one, because it can either be the best thing that ever happened to you or the worst. If your bestie doesn’t feel the same way about you, then you’re going to be crushed. Even if they do feel the same way, you’ll probably never know, because you won’t want to risk ruining your friendship by admitting your undying love.
  5. Your teacher. If you’re under eighteen, you’ll do more than get your teacher fired by making a move on him. You’ll also send him to prison. Even though you see him every single day, he’s off limits, which is what makes this type of crush so frustrating.
  6. Your married coworker. It’s dangerous to mix business and pleasure, which is why you should refrain from dating coworkers. Of course, it’s ten times worse when that coworker is married. It doesn’t matter if he’s willing to cheat on his wife, because anyone with a wedding ring should be considered off-limits.
  7. Your friend’s boyfriend. Crushing on your friend’s man is the easiest way to ruin a friendship. You don’t want her to know how you feel about him, and you certainly don’t want to make a move. If she finds out you’ve been flirting with him, you can say goodbye to your bestie.
  8. Your gay friend. They’re gay and you’re straight, or they’re straight and you’re gay. Either way, they’ll never be interested in a physical relationship with you. It’s impossible to “turn” them, so you know from the start that you’re never going to get your way.
  9. Your brother’s friend. Your brother and his friends might be around the same age as you, but that doesn’t mean that you should get involved with them. If you do, and then you break up, your brother could someone close to him. Then you’ll never hear the end of it.
  10. Your favorite celebrity. Celebrities just set the bar too high. Even though it’s healthy to have high standards, you don’t want to have unrealistic expectations. That’s why your celebrity crush could destroy your life. They’ll make you think that there are men out there just as perfect as Benedict Cumberbatch is—and that’s not always the case.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.