10 Types Of Intimacy You Have In A Committed Relationship

10 Types Of Intimacy You Have In A Committed Relationship ©iStock/teksomolika

Entering into a committed relationship changes your life in so many ways. It’s an entirely different lifestyle than being single, and the differences extend to the bedroom, as well.  Relationship intimacy is comfortable and trusting, which sometimes gives it a bad reputation for being dull. The truth is, there are a lot of different kinds of love-making you’ll have with your long-term partner, and they’re all enjoyable in their own way.

  1. Passionate date-night love-making. This kind of intimacy is one of the best aspects of being in a relationship if you’re a hopeless romantic. It’s the kind of intimacy that involves looking deeply into each other’s eyes and telling them you love them. It’s awesome because it stimulates the body and the soul; it tears down all the walls and makes you be vulnerable in the best way.
  2. The fun drunken romp after a party night together. It’s similar to the crazy nights you used to have when you were single, but with one big difference. Rather than scoping out who’s available and hoping you have enough batteries for your favorite toy (just in case), you already know who you’re taking home from the party and you know that the intimacy will be amazing. It’s a win/win situation.
  3. Lazy half-asleep morning love-making. You’ve just woken up in the arms of the one you love, and the blankets have created a warm cocoon that you absolutely don’t want to leave. Plus, he’s probably sporting some handy morning wood. What else would you do?
  4. Spontaneous mid-afternoon love-making. You’re cuddling together on the couch in the afternoon and suddenly you both get in the mood, so why not? It’s ridiculously awesome not having to get dressed up or leave the house to get it on.
  5. Round two encore after an already legendary marathon. You’ve just had some of the best love-making of your life and then followed it up with an epic cuddling session. Still, neither of you can stop thinking about how incredible the intimacy was, and reliving it in your own minds gets your engines revving again. Time for round 2!
  6. Weepy period love-making. You’re not quite yourself in any way, and you don’t even feel as attractive as normal because you’re miserable, but you still crave that connection with your partner and it feels good in a comforting, reassuring way.
  7. Make-up love-making after a fight. You’ve just gone to war with the last person you ever want to fight, and your emotions are raging. You’ve managed to come to an agreement and begin to move past it, but there’s still a disconnect and it’s unsettling. After connecting again on an emotional level, you complete the making up process by reconnecting physically.
  8. “Let’s try something new” intimacy. You’ve slept with each other many times, but suddenly you have the idea to try something you’ve never done together, like role playing. You have the advantage of already trusting your partner completely, but you also get the fun of trying something new. It’s another win/win situation.
  9. Hotel room/vacation love-making. There’s something fun and magical about making love away from home. You’re outside of your normal bed and your normal routine, so enjoy the novelty. Plus, you don’t have to wash the sheets.
  10. Celebrating relationship progress intimacy. When you reach an important relationship milestone, like saying the L word, becoming exclusive, moving in together, or getting engaged, love-making is a great way to celebrate another step forward on your journey together and cement your connection.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.