Masturbation may not be as talked about in women’s circles as it is in men’s, but many of us do it just as often as they do, some of us even more. Despite being in a committed relationship, I always make time for solo pleasure and I’m pretty sure that’s one of the major keys to keeping the passion with my boyfriend alive and well.
- It makes our sex life way more fulfilling. How was my boyfriend supposed to know how to give me a life-changing orgasm if I didn’t even know how to give myself one? The more I know how to please myself, the more I’m able to tell my partner what I need so he can work on giving it to me too. I get to feel amazing and he gets to be the one making me feel that way, which is a win-win for us.
- We communicate better inside and outside the bedroom. Since I’ve become more comfortable with myself as a sexual being, I’ve also become more comfortable in the bedroom with my boyfriend. I’m finally able to communicate during sex and say what I like, what I don’t like, and what I’d like to try. This used to be super awkward for me, but now that I can speak freely in bed, I find I can talk about anything outside of it too.
- It’s a total stress reliever. If my boyfriend is busy, I don’t need him to help me relax anymore — now I can do that all on my own. At the end of a long day, all I have to do is draw myself a bubble bath, pour a glass of wine and spend a little time just me, myself, and I. All of my uncomfortable tension slips away and my stress fades away. When I’m with my boyfriend again, I don’t have the weight of the world on my shoulders because I’m actually stress-free.
- I feel not only mentally and emotionally healthier but physically too. Masturbation is one of those rare things in life that feels good and is actually good FOR you. Orgasms can clean out bad bacteria, which can prevent cervical infections and even UTIs. Not only does it have stress relief benefits, but it also helps your sleep cycle. I’ve just found the best cure for insomnia and a well rested me equals a nicer (and healthier) girlfriend for my guy.
- I understand my body more than ever before. I’m finally aware of exactly what it takes for me to get my orgasm. I can find my own G-spot and that’s a tip I’m more than willing to pass along to my boyfriend. I’m having more orgasms than ever before. Feeling so in tune with myself is an amazing feeling that’s boosted my confidence, and that confidence has had a knock-on effect by making me even more attractive to my boyfriend.
- I’m finally getting some much needed “me” time. Masturbation is all about getting in touch with my body. I take care of myself in every other way, but I could never find the time to fulfill my sexual needs. When I spend all day with other people busy juggling work, friends and everything else, there’s nothing more satisfying than some quality one-on-one time with myself. I can’t hang out with my boyfriend 24/7. I need that time alone and now that I’m getting it, I’ve realized that it makes me appreciate the time my boyfriend and I spend together even more.
- It reestablishes my independence. I might be in a relationship but that doesn’t mean I’m not still a strong independent woman. I don’t need my boyfriend whenever I want to get myself off — I can do that all on my own now. If he’s away on business, my sexual desires don’t have to go unsatisfied. I can please myself and that’s empowering. My boyfriend loves a strong woman and masturbating makes me a hell of a lot stronger.
- I finally accept my body and am even growing to love it. Who knew that masturbation was a key to high self-esteem all along? I give my body some good loving and in turn, I’m learning to love my body just the way it is. I’m finally starting to be able to look at myself and feel sexy. I could never have known true body appreciation without getting up close and personal with my own skin.
- I’m discovering and exploring my deepest fantasies. When I’m alone, I let my imagination take the reigns. Masturbation has shown me what really arouses me. It lets me explore every sexual fantasy I have. It’s helped me to define my sexual identity and I’ve brought that identity back to the bedroom with my boyfriend. Now we’re both exploring our fantasies. I have to admit, masturbation has made my sex life feel more alive than ever.
- I’m actually happier. Nothing puts me in a good mood like some sexual healing. Part of the reason orgasms feel so good is because they release endorphins in our brains. That’s right, orgasms are an all-natural mood booster. Masturbation is the easiest way to get not just one, but multiple mind-blowing orgasms. At the end of the day when I’m a happy girl, my boyfriend’s happy too.
