The sad truth is that most guys put significantly less effort into relationships than we do, even in those early stages when you should be going all-out to show the other person what makes you such a great catch. It’s annoying and unfair, but you’re not going to put up with it anymore! If your guy isn’t doing things these to try and impress you, then it’s time to call him an Uber and move on with your life. Get ready to raise your standards!
- He asks you questions about yourself and they get deep. Ever been on a date and the guy just drones on and on about himself? You ask him questions but he never reciprocates. You’re left knowing all about him and what does he know about you? Nothing. A guy who asks you about your history, what you want, and asks to hear more about your hobbies is a potential keeper because it means he’s actually interested in who you are and what makes you tick.
- He matches your energy over text. Do you like texting throughout the day? Or, maybe you only like to text to make plans for meeting up in real life. A good guy will be down for your texting style. The guys who ghost for days after you ask them a question aren’t here for the right reasons. The one for you will be showing you how much he likes you through text.
- He wants to meet your friends. Meeting your friends is the next step in bringing your relationship from hookup to something a bit more serious. It’s one thing if you ask him to meet your friends and he says yes, but if he brings it up and comes up with a plan? He knows how much your friends mean to you. A guy who actively wants to meet your friends is trying to impress you in all the right ways.
- He wants to meet your family. Does he actively want to meet your parents, siblings, and beloved grandparents? He’ll endure all the nerves and anxiety to shake your parents’ hands and sit through a dinner being grilled about his past, present, and future. That’s because he imagines being in your life long-term and knows how important they are to you, so they’re important to him too.
- He asks you what you want. A great guy cares about what you want. It could be something as simple as what you want to do for the weekend or as deep as your hopes and dreams. If he’s not trying to impress you by asking about your desires, then he’s not worth it.
- He shows he’s interested. Nothing’s worse than wondering. “Does he actually like me or does he just want a hookup?” “Is he seeing anyone else?” The right guy won’t make you wonder. He’ll show how he feels about you with both his actions and his words. You shouldn’t have to work to keep a guy interested.
- He remembers what you’ve told him and he proves it through action. No forgotten birthdays or anniversaries. No having to repeat yourself about weekend plans or the names of your friends. He’ll listen and remember and show that to you totally unprompted.
- He doesn’t have to be asked. You just made him a nice dinner? A guy who’s trying to impress you in all the right ways will help by doing the dishes without asking. He’ll plan dates and pick up after himself, all while holding your heart and keep it safe. You don’t have to chase him to do things because they come automatically.
- He cares if you finish. This is a big one. Let’s all make a pact to never again date a guy who only cares if he finishes while having sex. Your satisfaction matters just as much as his! The kinds of guys who focus on you and your pleasure, making sure that you feel comfortable and desired, are the sexiest guys around. Always look for a guy who tries to impress you in the bedroom.
- He never stops trying to impress you. The “honeymoon phase” is one thing. Of course, he should be trying to impress you in the first few months you’re together. Unfortunately, some guys stop after they’re sure that they’ve got you hooked. That’s a huge red flag showing that all the affection from the beginning was just a ruse and not really genuine. If he really cares about you, he’ll show it as long as you’re together. And if you’re the right one for him, you’ll do the same to impress him in return.
