10 Ways Getting Your Act Together Will Help You Find Love

Your life feels like it’s a total mess, but if you could only find a boyfriend, life would be so much better, right? Wrong. The truth is that you have to get your own act together before worrying about having a boyfriend. In fact, having your life together can actually help you find love. Here’s how:

  1. You’ll actually have money to go out. You’re not going to find your Mr. Perfect sitting at home on the couch. Being broke AF can actually contribute to you being single AF. You need money to go out, have a good time, and put yourself in a situation where you actually could meet someone. Otherwise, it’s just going to be you and Netflix for the rest of your life. Work hard at something you’re passionate about and can make an income from and it will fulfill you in more ways than one.
  2. You’ll be emotionally available. What’s the point in looking for love if you won’t be ready for it when you find it? If you can’t let a guy in and truly be vulnerable with him, then no relationship of yours will ever work out. Get your act together emotionally and you’ll tear down the walls that keep men away and finally open a door for them to come in. Finding love means nothing if you’re not in a good place to receive and reciprocate it.
  3. You’ll only date guys you see a future with. Guys who are afraid of commitment will be a thing of the past because once you have your act together, you won’t want anyone to tear your life apart. Toxic guys will no longer be welcome at your doorstep. You’ll be over casual dating, one-night stands, and almost relationships because you’ll finally be completely ready for something serious.
  4. You’ll stop putting up with BS. When everything else in your life is good, you’ll want your love life to be good too. That’s why you’ll stop dating men who treat you like crap. All the BS that guys who couldn’t care less put women through will finally be behind you. When your life is finally together, you’ll finally realize what type of man you deserve and what kind of treatment you don’t.
  5. You’ll have time to spend with a significant other. When your life is finally in order, you won’t have a problem finding time to spend with that special someone. Your whole life will be figured out, so you’ll actually have free time to devote to something other than work, food, and keeping your sanity. Having your life together will be a breath of fresh air because after all these years, you’ll finally have time to relax.
  6. You’ll want a man but you won’t need one. When your life is complete chaos, you’ll keep dreaming of a Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet and solve all your problems. In that scenario, you’re desperate. You don’t want a man; you need a savior that you can be dependent on, and that’s anything but attractive. So get your life together, find your independence about you’ll finally want a man for no other reason that to have love.
  7. You’ll get over your exes. Why? Because you’ll finally realize that you’re better off without them. You don’t need them to make your life complete or even just functional. When you get your life together, you’ll realize that life is good even without a man — and especially without your exes.
  8. You’ll be organized. Which means you’ll stop forgetting about dates and leaving everything until the last possible minute. For once, you’ll stop procrastinating your love life. You won’t put off for tomorrow what you could accomplish today — your love life included.
  9. You’ll have your priorities straight. When you actually have your life figured out, it will be so much easier to throw another priority (a relationship) into the mix. If you can’t juggle the many aspects of your life now, then you’re so not ready for a boyfriend. Get your priorities straight first, and then having a boyfriend will easily fall in line.
  10. You’ll attract men who also have their act together. Once the drama is gone from your life, you’ll start attracting the right kind of men: the ones who also have their lives together. You’ll finally reject chaos and attract a man who’s ready for anything life throws at him — even you.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.