10 Ways Your Life Improves When You Learn To Love Yourself, Flaws & All

A lot of things change when you finally start to feel good about who you are. It’s not always an easy journey, but your life will change in some pretty amazing ways once you get there.

  1. You radiate confidence. Feeling confident isn’t just about loving yourself, it’s also about not being intimidated by other people. When you’re confident, you’re able to hold a conversation with the guy behind you in line at your favorite coffee shop. You’re able to raise your hand in a meeting when your boss asks if anyone has anything they want to add. You aren’t afraid to interact with your co-workers or even strangers anymore because you’re confident with who you are. Everyone can see it, and it’s a good look.
  2. Focusing on the positive stuff is a lot easier. Every day isn’t going to be a great day, but every day is a blessing and you know that. You do your best to keep moving when it feels like everyone’s working against you because you know that things could always be worse. You no longer focus on the “should’ve, would’ve, could’ve.” You focus on the positives and ignore the negatives as much as you can.
  3. You Start Attracting Good People. As they say, “Your vibe attracts your tribe.” Being confident and happy are two characteristics that people want to be around. So, it makes sense that you start to attract a lot of people when you’re feeling good about who you are.
  4. You Feel More Motivated to get up and make things happen. Feeling like crap crippled you. It made you boring and it made you lazy. You lived your life on a strict and mundane schedule; you woke up, went to work, came home, ate, and went to bed. That was it. You didn’t go out of your way to work hard, impress your boss, or make time for friends. You weren’t motivated to do anything like you are now. You live with a purpose and you’re determined to live the best life you possibly can.
  5. You Don’t Tolerate As Much BS. The friend who used to mock you and the boyfriend who took you for granted are now in the past—you broke up with them both when you realized your worth. Now, instead of hanging out with a giant group of people, your friend group has been shaved off because you only tolerate those who treat you with respect.
  6. Your Friends See A Change. Maybe it’s because your friend group has dwindled, and your friends have more attention to give you and solely you. But even they see a change in you. They can tell that you’re coming out of your shell and taking more chances than you once did. This is a good thing because your confident energy could potentially rub off on your friends!
  7. You Start Setting Boundaries And Goals. When you feel good about who you are, you’re able to see yourself clearly. You understand what it is you want in a significant other, a friend, and life as a whole. And because of that, you have an easier time setting boundaries and goals for yourself and your relationships. If you don’t want to sleep with a guy until the fourth date, you have no problem telling him that and then sticking to it. If you want to save $2,000 by the end of the year, you stop spending money on frivolous things and you save that money. You do what you set out to do, no matter what!
  8. The future excites you. You start to see the potential for your life. Instead of ignoring the fact that the future happens, you open your eyes wide and you stare into the future. You embrace it! You start to dream about your future career, your future husband, and the future children you might end up having (if kids are your thing). The idea of not knowing exactly where your life will lead doesn’t scare you. You like feeling like the best has yet to come.
  9. You Seek The Right Kind Of Validation. Instead of relying on how many likes your pictures get, and how many followers you have on social media, to give you validation, you’ve started to create your own. You’ve taken a hard look at yourself, wrote down your positives and made a mental list of what you’d like to improve on. But you’re not working on yourself in order to gain respect from your peers, you’re working on yourself because you want to improve for you.
  10. You Stop Fearing The Unknown. Are you ever going to find your soulmate and live happily ever after? It would be nice if you did, but the idea of never finding your forever person doesn’t scare you. Because you know you’ll always have yourself, your friends, and the strength to choose happiness no matter what situation you find yourself in.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.