10 Ways To Take Your Naughty Talk From Awkward To Awesome

Sure, you’d like to be super suave when it comes to talking dirty, but the idea of telling your partner all the naughty things you want them to do to you and how kinda makes you want to hide under the covers. The thing about naughty talk,  though, is that anyone can do it — as long as you remember these 10 things:

  1. Use your inside voice. If you’ve never done it before, it’s probably best to keep the volume low as opposed to being loud and brash about it. If you mess up your line, he’ll just think he misheard you because of your muffled whispers. Plus, it’s just hotter that way. Screaming and naughty talk really don’t go together.
  2. Ask a question. If you’re unsure of what to say, ask your partner a question. What are you thinking right now? Can I touch you there? Whether the answer is yes or no, there will be lots to play off and might give you some inspiration on where to go from there.
  3. Tell him when you like something. Adding in little quips about what you like will heat up the moment and head off any awkward silences. If he’s kissing your neck and it feels great, tell him! Or better yet, whisper it gently in his ear. Letting him know what’s working for you will get him super turned on and you’ll get exactly what you want — it’s a win-win.
  4. Shower on the compliments. If you feel a little tongue-tied in bed, try giving him a compliment about his physical body or personality. Tell him how strong his arms look or how you’re super turned on by his straightforward attitude in bed. Guys don’t hear it often enough and it will only lead to more fun.
  5. Say please and thank you. A super easy way to get a word in is to do what your mama told you and use your manners. Ask something of him, say please and then say thank you. It’s a cute little game that he’ll totally go nuts for.
  6. Keep it simple. Don’t recite an entire three-act play. A few words here and there is enough. If you talk too much, it might be hard to focus, your BF will get annoyed, and everything will start to unravel. Approach your new naughty talk mission with a few key phrases such as “I’m so turned on right now,” “May I touch you there?” and “Do you like that?” That’s all you really need to get your point across.
  7. Use descriptive words. Use words like “hard,” “big,” “wet,” “hot,” etc…He’s gonna perk up like a little puppy dog. These words are key to successful naughty talk. If you’re feeling frisky one night, try breaking out the thesaurus for some alternatives and you’ll never get bored.
  8. Have intention. It’s all about delivery. Have you ever seen a really bad performance by an actor? Remember how awkward it made you feel? It kinda made you squirm in your seat, didn’t it? If you’re not 100% behind what you’re saying, your partner won’t believe it. If you want your naughty talk to be taken seriously, you need to have the utmost intention behind it.
  9. If you’re shy, start with sounds. If the idea of talking naughty is making you hyperventilate, never fear — there are lots of hot sounds you can make that will perhaps speak even louder than words. Pay attention to your urges to make noise and instead of holding it in to make sure your neighbor doesn’t hear, try letting it out. Quiet sounds are just as good as loud, earth-shattering shrieks. You’ll be surprised how attractive you can be.
  10. Have a pre-love-making chat. Planning out your intimate time before you do it is a great way to get the naughty talk ball rolling. Talk about what kinds of things you would maybe like to try, either tonight or sometime in the future and really listen to each other — this is not a time for judgment. This method is great because it doesn’t feel like you’re acting or being fake — you’re just sincerely communicating what you like and it becomes hot without even trying
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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