He’s made it more than clear that he’s not ready for a relationship. You may not like it but you know that you have to get on with your life. But how? You’ve been so immersed in trying to make a relationship work with him that you’ve lost yourself. It’s time to stop waiting for him and move on for good. Here are 10 ways to stop waiting for that guy that’s just not ready for you.
- Reconnect with the friend you’ve been neglecting. If you’ve been putting your other relationships aside to spend time with this guy that isn’t ready for you, get out there and reconnect with them. Apologize if you’ve been ignoring them. Offer to do something special with them you know they love to do. Most importantly, remember in the future that your friends are the ones that are there for you through thick and thin.
- Pour yourself into your work. Remember that your career matters and it needs your attention. This could be the perfect time to go for that promotion or join a team project. Set some goals and make your boss pay attention to you. The harder you work, the less time you have to think about the guy who can’t handle a relationship.
- Set up a girls’ night. Better yet, set up a girls’ weekend. Plan a trip with your girlfriends so you can all have fun together. If a weekend away isn’t possible, set up a night where everyone can come over and watch movies and have a good time. Plan the food, the entertainment, and have fun!
- Wash that guy right out of your hair. Go get a makeover at your favorite salon. Cut some inches off, go for a new color, or get some extensions. Create a whole fresh look. You’ll feel like a new person, and the attention you get from new guys won’t hurt either.
- Take a course at a local college. Community colleges are great for taking short-term courses. You can enroll in a course that could benefit your job or you can just learn a new skill that interests you. Always wanted to learn how to take better pictures? There are courses for that! Want to manage your money better or learn how to invest it? There are courses for that too. You’ll be so busy learning you won’t have time to think about that guy.
- Start a new hobby. You have time now and hobbies can be a great way to meet new people. There are so many things to choose from. Learn to play an instrument, join a sports team, or start a ceramics class. You don’t have to make it a profession. Just have fun with it.
- Redecorate a room in your apartment. There’s probably a room that you’ve been thinking of working on already. Go and watch some YouTube videos. Browse Pinterest. Make a plan and figure out what you need. Just the planning stage alone will keep you busy, but once you start the decorating process, you could be busy for months. By that time, he’ll be a distant memory.
- Take a vacation. If you haven’t used up vacation days at work, this is a great time to get out of town and do some exploring. Bring a friend with you or go solo. You don’t have to spend a lot of money if you can’t afford to travel internationally. Find out what the most recommended local vacation spots are and visit one that you’ve never been to before.
- Reflect on your future. This is the perfect time to figure out where you are and where you want to be in your life. Are you in a good place in your career? Are you living in the place you want to live in forever? Figure out what you need to do to get there and then set some short-term and long-term goals for yourself.
- Start dating again. You don’t have to find someone to get serious with right away, but start seeing other people. Go on dates and meet new people. Load Tinder onto your phone again or ask your friends if they have single guys that are interested in meeting cool women like you.
It’s important to remember that if he’s not ready for you now, he may never be. When you wait for someone, you make yourself unavailable to other people. What if the right guy is just around the corner and you miss him because you were waiting for the guy who isn’t ready for you? Move on. Stop waiting. Start living your life again.
