When we finally meet someone that we like enough to actually date, we want to believe that they’re a good person, and we definitely don’t want anything complicated. We got enough of that when we were unhappily dating, thank you very much. But unfortunately, people aren’t always what they seem and the guy who seemed so wonderful could turn out to be a huge player. Your friends may warn you and it may be obvious to everyone but you that this guy is bad news, but you’re so smitten you don’t listen. If any of these 10 ways to tell if he’s a player who is totally full of it ring true, you might want to rethink your Prince Charming.
- He never keeps any of his grand promises. If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Actually, it definitely is. If this guy promises you the world and more and never, ever comes through, then he’s full of it. Don’t believe him, don’t keep dating him, don’t even talk to him anymore. Someone who promises and then doesn’t deliver is basically a liar, and you don’t need that.
- He talks future on the first date. We all want to have that perfect first date where we know by the end of the night that we’re destined for each other. But if a guy is saying he’s going to marry you and you’ve just ordered your second glass of wine, that’s moving pretty fast. Guys who talk like this never mean it. You could never hear from him again come tomorrow. The really serious guys know that slow and steady always wins and that there’s a time and place for everything.
- He’s always late. If you respect someone, you value their time and are never late. He will have a million excuses and none of them will be true. You can’t have a boyfriend who shows up late to everything – how embarrassing will it be come Christmas when your fam is hosting a party and he shows up two hours past the start time?
- He doesn’t show up when he’s supposed to. You throw a party and he says he’ll be there and then just doesn’t show. Or he texts with a b.s. sounding excuse and then you don’t hear from him for the rest of the night.
- He ignores your texts. There’s a persistent stereotype that guys hate to text. That may be the case for some, but in general, if a guy is into you he is okay with texting you. Your phone will be blowing up 24/7. No guy should ever ignore you. It’s so uncool.
- There’s zero follow-through. Without the follow-through, there’s no hope of having a proper relationship. It’s just not possible. If he says he wants to take you out to an amazing dinner then never mentions it again, or you two are hanging out for weeks but things don’t seem to be moving forward, he’s definitely full of crap.
- He won’t talk to you on the phone. We may be obsessed with texting and social media these days, but a good old-fashioned phone call is still necessary sometimes. When you’re dating someone and are forced to be apart, you want to say goodnight on the phone or want to hear their phone just because. It’s creepy if he won’t ever talk on the phone. And if he never answers when you try to call, that’s even worse.
- His work schedule seems to change 24/7. Some of us freelance or work a non 9-to-5 schedule but even the most unconventional of work schedules is still pretty routine. It’s shady if he claims that he never knows when he’s supposed to work. That’s basically code for “I don’t feel like seeing you all that often so stop asking.”
- You think he’s seeing other people. This should 100 percent convince you that this guy is a player. Maybe he always seems to be busy when you ask to see him or his schedule seems to be full the majority of the time, or he’s sketchy about planning things too far in advance. The right guy will hang out with you a lot.
- You get a bad vibe. Listen to your gut. When you think something is off, you’re usually right.
